First, let me say that I was a member of eharmony for two years. I knew of the monthly fees, and I gave them a specific credit card to charge, which worked fine. Two months later, I changed from the monthly membership to the annual membership. I was billed on my next statement, and I was fine with that. When you compare $49.95 per month for 12 months to the reduced rate, it was worth it. I never had a problem with the annual charge. I was always notified when my subscription needed to be renewed.
Think about buying a house. Would you settle for just what's out there, knowing you'll never be happy where you are and knowing that there other possibilities out there? Or do you want to options, and be able to be in control of your options?
It's what you WANT it to be. Specify it. Fine-tune it. That goes for your relationships, what you want in dating, and what you want in life. I set-up my matches to find someone with similar interests, hobbies, lifestyle, religion... Make it what you want. Go for what you want on a long-term, not just short-term. That's okay too.
If I felt that I was being scammed, I would have cancelled eharmony a long time ago. But I researched it, I read a lot about it, read a lot of testimonials, and asked a lot of questions about it. I am not the type of person to accept things "as is", so I look into things which spark my attention. I was never scammed with Eharmony, ever. Did they offer different packages and options? YES. But I declined each one of them because I was happy with the eharmony program, and I was out for looking for SOMEONE not SOMETHING.
When I set-up my profile, I made sure that the women that I set-up a basic simple profile, and I didn't specify a lot of information. I received about 50+ matches a few days in a row. I signed back on, and changed my matches to at least the same state that I lived in (New Jersey). Then, I went through the current matches and specified reasons why not to be matched with the people out of state.
I went on sporadic dates here and there, but they weren't the type of woman that I was looking for. So, I modified my profile, going from the "basic simple" search for someone, and narrowing it down a little as to what I was looking for. Age, height, background, kids. Although I made modifications, I was still open-minded. I received a lot of matches, most of which closed me out as "they live too far" or "no compatibility". I did go on some dates with people whom I thought were nice, but they didn't feel a "connection". If the compatibility wasn't there, then there wasn't a need to continue. However, I never walked out in the middle of a date. I'm not like that.
So, I specified exactly what I was looking for. I took the 200 question test again. I did a lot of thinking about my Q&A, and I rewrote a lot of my information with more personalized information about myself. In other words, I put myself on a limb, dropped my guard, and just let myself out there. I wanted people to see who I was as a person, and I wanted to go from there.
I met and dated a lot of different people. Most were single dates, and I was alright with that. I had short-term relationships (3-5 months) with some women.
I was matched with someone in February 2007. We talked every day in eharmony, sharing a lot about each other. After a month, we setup our first date, which went very well. The conversations that we had in eharmony were the basis for our conversations, and they sparked other conversations. It was great, we had a fantastic time. We dated each other on a Saturday, then again on Sunday. When I got home, I signed onto eharmony, and started closing out my matches who were not in open communication saying "I am pursuing another relationship" because I feel that I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt why I closed their match. Over the next few days, I sent messages to the other people I was in open communication with, letting them know that I have met someone and that I wish them good luck in their search, and also closed the match.
We're now dating over a year. We have taken vacations together, travelled together, went to concerts together, dinners, countless movies, Broadway shows, white water rafting, camping, and we just have a great time at whatever we want to do.
It's what YOU want it to be. Specify exactly what you want - age, location, etc. Don't settle. Go for what you want in someone.
Good luck. :)