eHarmony — expired member matching
After a couple of weeks of matching, over 50 matches reviewed, contact with all, as eharmony recommends, only one who got to level 4, "open communication" and subsequently decided he "wasn't ready for the next step, (why was he there, then?)," it occurred to me that something was wrong. My picture showed an physically attractive, happy, 64 year old, and some of the ones I was contacting looked as if I might be their first date. Was it possible that they matched me with people whose membership had expired? Customer Service admitted that they did keep everyone in their data base whether they paid or not!!! I asked to be matched with only current members, actively seeking, as I explained that people of a certain age (ahem) may be dead, married, or not have enough, ahhhh, energy to pursue a relationship. And I asked, "does that mean I will be in your data bank forever?" They said yes, and I protested. I do not want to be a ploy to get people back who have cancelled. They gave me a Customer Relations address, Attn: Louise at POB 60157, Pasadena, CA 91116. I am awaiting their reply to my request to be deleted from their files. Oh, I was able to delete my picture and some of my profile, but not all.