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Let me tell you about OKCupid...
I've had a dozen different profiles on there, basically because, well, the a!*#$le "moderators" keep deleting them!
They last between 3 days to 3 weeks then you Can't log in for "technical difficulties"
I've never violated their rules. In fact, I've nicely polished off my profile, generously expanding and adding things to it: making it funny, telling more and more about my interests and background. That sort of thing. Then when I least expect it, I'll log in one day and Won't be able to log in!
Their "moderators" are a hundred or more a!*#$les located across the country. They are typically in their 20s or early 30s and literally play god with their powers. They secretly read e-mail. They make their own bogus accounts and talk to different people through them (they call this an "experiment" incidentally--whatever they do they "Justify"!).
They haven't even got the decency to say "Your account no longer exists" Instead they come up with this "We're having technical difficulties...try again later" message. So you keep trying and trying and trying and trying to log in--but your account's been Wiped!

My first account I packed. They have an online questionaire and for each question you can manually type in an answer to it. I answered all 3200 or 3300 of their questions. That's right, THOUSANDS of them--and for each I gave a nicely detailed explanation for each.
It was not accomplished overnight. It took Some Time to do all this work. That's how much faith and trust I had in OKCupid's system.
Then one day I tried to log in and Couldn't.
IT WAS ALL f!*#ING GONE FOR GOOD!

And I couldn't e-mail OKCupid and get a response, no matter how hard I tried (or for that matter log back in because at that time I had no idea I was deleted!).

That's how they work. So I went back on and created a new profile with a new picture (because whenever I used my old ones they were the first to be deleted--a part of their "rogues gallery" of f!*#ing losers!). And each and every account was sooner or later deleted.

In all, I acted respectful, intelligent, and fairly classes but not obnoxious. I played by the ruled. I respected all women and responded to what e-mail I was sent.

THERE WAS NO f!*#ING REASON TO DELETE ME!

None of them justified deletion. So I began to experiment on them. I came up with a "Trekkie" profile which was cute--that one lasted 3 DAYS! I came up with a "foreigner" profile (a Muslim guy who had trouble typing English)--he lasted maybe 1 Week!

Obviously the f!*#ers who run the place like to play games and love to discriminate!

Furthermore, I'm Far from alone here. I've spoken to people like a man who had MS, paid for their services, and was given the same deletion ticket!

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RickSoAloneInMD
RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Oct 07, 2018 10:21 am EDT
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[censored] you people for making me not exist anymore and literally die

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RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Jun 19, 2018 5:56 pm EDT
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[censored] you people for never caring

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RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Jun 15, 2018 11:37 am EDT
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[censored] you people for ignoring me and making me not exist

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Zanderz
, US
May 18, 2018 9:09 pm EDT

I agree with your frustration. I didn't do anything to violate their rules. I didn't even talk to anyone. I had my real photo up and I answered some match questions. Months later when I decided to be active on the site, I wasn't showing up in other friends' search results. I contacted them and they had the nerve to say, 'it was temporarily banned' without giving the actual reason. They took care of it they said. [censored]...

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karmaispatient
, US
Apr 15, 2018 3:01 pm EDT
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"have been removed from public view." >> so they still have them and look at them internally, but deny you any access to it? How creepy of them. They do not give a warning or anything. And they block the whole IP address or laptop. This goes against any data protection and free internet imo and also against regarding laws of free internet and data security. They obviously have a grid on your whole laptop. What kind of company does something like this. They must be extremely entitled frauds. I am female and atheist and got blocked for no reason, got no notification. The "support" is incompetent and only sends useless standard messages, so rude and even abusive. They falsely accuse me of sending abusive messages. That's illegal. Plus a friend wanted to sign up on my laptop, different email and name of course, it's not working either.
OKC is a discriminating fraud, nothing else. I also had to state in my profile that I don't want to get harassed by lesbians and bisexual women, because they were so mean to me because I'm straight and not more interested in them than friendship. I don't care if a woman is bi or lesbian and still want to be friends with them, but that's seemingly frustrating to these aggressive, horny lesbians? Never had such bad experiences with bi's or lesbians anywhere else on the internet ever and not such a high amount. It was really bullying, from LGBT people towards me, for me wanting "only" friendship. Dang crazy.
Here is another site who underlines it: https://sitedown.co/okcupid/sorry-were-having-technical-difficulties-right-now-check-back-later-1

It is so obvious now, since I read so many comments of others who say it seems the discriminate atheists and people who are not into lesbians, because the mods are many frustrated lesbians and hit on the members and target them if they don't succeed. While the mods are free to send abusive and harassing messages themselfes without getting banned, especially not their whole computer blocked. To sum it up: illegal, fraud, discrimination, false accusations, abuse of their power over innocent people and users, incompetence brought to a new level which affects the free internet and my whole laptop and anyone who uses my laptop too.

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Ahmed Waseem
, US
Apr 02, 2018 5:32 am EDT

Hey! i have not been able to login to my okcupid for quiet a while now.. even tried creating a new account, with different emails.. nothing.. i even asked a friend to try from another country.. also not working.. could you please check if my account is still available? ahmed_wassim@hotmail.com

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chupichu
, US
Mar 08, 2018 9:10 am EST

Well, as an OKC A+ member since 2008, I can honestly say that:

For the first few years they've been the best dating site - and for many reasons : the ability to see visitors, many interesting questionnaires that give you the option to elaborate on and so on without the obligation to pay high fees or pay at all, with the exception of having 500 messages in your inbox which you could delete to spare space. You had many visitors, and as a result - many messages and interactions because there was no limitation to profile exposure and visibility to other users.

Ever since they've been bought by Match.com they've gradually got worse and worse (with all of their "new"policies, terms and changes) like noticeably having much fewer profile exposure and visibility and aren't being able to see visitors and message them, basically ruining everything that made that dating site so unique and successful.

However, their recent changes in policy are unbearable:

1) Users are forced to change nicknames to their first name (after some trail and error it turns out that they ban accounts that don't follow that restriction - regardless of they way that the account is being used) - if you log out, you can't log in, saying :" Your info was incorrect. Try again". Even when you type in the right Password and account name.

2) You can no longer search for other users, deleted messages in your Inbox to get rid of unwanted/unnecessary messages, you can no longer block users if you don't want them to see or contact you unless you go into their profile - and of course you can't do that because you can't search for users. You can no longer decide for yourself if you want to contact a shy visitor or reply a message - unless you both like each other or you pay 60+ $$ for full membership (back in the day it used to be around 30$).

OKC claimed (on their responses and advertisements throughout the site, email messages and Internet) that it's for the best interest of their members, but personally I feel that it has only been made for one purpose - to force users to buy membership, otherwise this site is unusable to the common user.

It also seems that they try to be more like a 2nd Tinder, which is of course unnecessary and as I previously said - it misses the whole OKC goal and how unique it was to the OKC community. If People wanted Tinder or other alrernatives- they would've moved there instead. But now that I come to think of it, OKC may be pushing people to do so on their own.

3) If I put aside and leave for a second the "minor" thing of changing terms & policies so drastically and in such one sided move that affects A+ members that have paid good money for something entirely different (visitor seeing and other key features), without even notifying, consulting, making user polls or giving a "heads-up" to the current A+ users that have signed on different "Terms & Conditions" when they first started paying for the service - I'd even say that it adjoining breach of contract, Worsening the conditions people are paying for.

As of now, I'm seriously considering deleting my account without any intention of returning.

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OnlineDater
, US
Mar 10, 2018 4:04 pm EST
Replying to comment of chupichu

I agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. I thought I was an OKC member for a long time, but you beat me by a number of years! So, please enlighten everyone reading these comments as to which online dating site you recommend; I tried PoF, it had bad choices, I *paid* for Match.com, found no one and no one found me, and eHarmony made me answer a gazillion questions before finally saying they wouldn't show any profiles until I paid them. I liked that OKC was free, but absolutely, since Match took over, it's plummeted downhill rapidly. What do you suggest?

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Earlybirdgetstheworm
, US
Feb 17, 2018 1:38 am EST

My sister was a paying member for over 1yer and had a multitude of issues in direct correlation with many o yurs. She had login difficulties many times and spent 5 months appealing to receive her membership fee full reimbursement but was unsuccessful. Though many sites appear to be based in usa they have upper manage based internationally.

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chris columbia
, US
Jan 26, 2018 10:30 am EST

Yup, OK Cupid is a censor machine that discriminates. [censor] them! Horrible company with horrible evil people "working" there. As an A+ member who can no longer sign in, I've put a stop payment on my ccc and requesting refunds for the previous three months. Done with OkCupid. It's a horrid way to meet anyone.

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WonderfulMan
, US
Nov 22, 2017 9:28 am EST

I feel the pain and frustration all of you feel as I have gone through the same with OkCupid. They delete profiles/members just because...without any valid or legal reason given. They deleted mine before...and the only reply I got said I was:

"You were reported for sending abusive messages.

We have reviewed your account history and you have been blacklisted for behavior that violates our Terms of Service. Your account and photos have been removed from public view.

We consider this matter resolved".

That's total [censor]. I never harassed or abused anyone online or offline. I think they just play games with people and accuse them in stuff they did not do. As soon as they receive people's money, the game starts and they start to eliminate & delete profiles with no reason. I think it's time to boycott this OkCupid and also report them to the appropriate department. Maybe they'll be shut down for good.

By the way...the phone number listed above is not their phone number even. It's a voice box number. OkCupid and whoever runs them can't be reached via phone...which is pathetic and stupid!

RickSoAloneInMD
RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Jan 12, 2018 7:17 am EST
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These sites are seriously severely frustrating because of females being [censored], shallow, [censor], racist, and these sites just don’t care and neither do females

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Cap Co
, US
Sep 19, 2017 6:07 pm EDT

I took hours on OKC to set up my first ever account with a dating service. Two days later I can no longer log in. No reason given. Five messages to their support have so far gone ignored.
I have only set up the account. I have not even interacted with a single person so why am I blocked?
The way I see it, two photos and a psychological profile have been stolen from me.
How do I know what they may now be doing with that data?

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OKcupidsucks
, US
Aug 27, 2017 5:49 am EDT

Same problem; I haven't even sent any messages or replied to any post! I just liked and bookmarked a few profiles and answered about 300 questions of them on different topics; nothing on my profile was offensive in no possible way. But I'm banned for some unimaginable reason! It's really disrespectful that they don't even explain the reason for banning you. We need an alternative to this ------ site.

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meriann
, US
Jun 03, 2017 3:19 pm EDT
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They got back to me in about 1 week, and re-instated the account, btw. Some 'silly' users flagged it for now reason really.

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d825837
, US
Jun 03, 2017 2:43 pm EDT

My roommate is a female on there and received a death threat from a guy he threatened to get her drunk and push her off his porch then stomp the back of her head until she could no longer breathe only after she had broken all her teeth. She reported this guy of course and after 5 days her account got banned as well as mine. When we asked the okcupid support for help they said she was sending "Unwanted overly SEXual messages" First off my roommate models. Even if she did send some sort of over SEXual message I don't think any guy on there would consider it unwanted. Plus she says she never sent anything like that. So I messaged about my account and I received the same generic message saying I sent "unwanted overly SEXual messages." I sent one message in the last 3 weeks regarding the Dark Tower book series. The Moderation Response team is just a bunch of lazy [censor] who can't do their jobs at all and okcupid cant regulate them.

RickSoAloneInMD
RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Sep 07, 2019 12:40 pm EDT
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Replying to comment of d825837

Good. I hope she can never use the already horrible because of her gender-site anymore. these sites are horrible because of you people and especially females.. but everyone only wants to make men to be the monsters and we’re not. its females who are horrible and garbage and racists, arrogant as sh_t, dumb, stupid, attention wh_res, prostitution soliciting golddigging wh_ring, game playing and game wanting, stuck the hell up, negative nasty attitudes and just horrible people and a horrible gender

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meriann
, US
May 26, 2017 4:00 pm EDT
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Exactly same thing happened to me, after answering some questions. I believe they discriminate. I have not even really conversed with many people on those days. It's kind of sad, i was with okc from the very beginning of their existence, when they were still college cliff's notes more or less...

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Jon in minneapolis
, US
Mar 09, 2017 9:48 am EST

03.09.2017 -- I did ABSOLUTELY nothing bad. I had this account for 3 years or so, with NO Problems, technically or with women on OKCupid. I sais nothing dirty. I had ongoing friendships with 5 or 6 women, all are over 50 years old, just as I am. They all were at least pen pals!
I had GREAT photos posted: ski pics, outside on my deck, etc. I have answered1500+ questions answered over the 3 years!
Suddenly, 6 days ago, I could not login! I cannot figure this out!
I tried logging in at a library, and I had the SAME problem. They have somehow screwed-up my account, it is not a PC or browser problem.
We’re having technical difficulties, try again later.

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Ayushib
, IN
May 16, 2016 2:38 am EDT

Somebody has created a fake account using my contact number and name on OKCupid and uploaded an obscene picture on Saturday. I have been getting inappropriate calls and messages since then. I have already made a complain on OKcupid website but no response. My profile has not been deleted so far, let alone tracking of who did it. Please help me ASAP!

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CantSignIntoOkCupid
Austin, US
Jul 13, 2014 2:37 am EDT

I experienced this tonight. I am having an ongoing fun, casual, respectful conversation with a woman and then bam, I am unable to view or respond to said messages. Filled out hundreds of questions and etc, and have a few unanswered messages I need to follow up on. I hope I can get this resolved by tomorrow.

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tammy obrien
Salina, US
Jun 29, 2014 11:33 am EDT
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this is all new to me, ok cupid was my 1st & last site but before i leave i am gonna make damn sure you know about two girls that are playing off each other, proably hurting people but teenagers with undeveloped brains don't think about anything 1. is called n2women13 real piece of work this girl is, proably 17, fake pic & had help with profile 2nd. girl 16 fake pics, help with profile, they work together, have for along time, its sad but i think they also hook & do drugs. thanks to these dating services they go after money, well, whatever you got. the 2nd girl i'm sorry she goes by mejgirl.just wanted to warn the dating sites of mejgirl & n2women13 their not nice girls, beware, of deceitfullnes, fraud, lies, & decoys. this is all i have to say & i hope this brings awareness to you out there on these sites.

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Upsetcupiduser
private, US
Apr 02, 2014 8:32 am EDT

im banned or locked i said nothing slimey. are my messages deleted.

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yelena.n
, RU
Dec 18, 2012 3:50 am EST
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I'm actually having the same problem with ok cupid. Just registered there on Sunday, and on Monday I couldn't log in for technical difficulties. I never broke any of their rules. I just don't get what is wrong with them.

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Octotroph
, US
Dec 16, 2012 2:36 am EST

Dude. i'm a moderator. they're just other users, like you. the moderators can comment, and say what they think should happen to the flagged pic or profile. once you cast your vote, you can never get back to that page, to see what happened, or vote again, or whatever conspiracy you have in mind. we have no power, and no motivation to mess with people. seriously. and we can't "read your emails" or get into your profile, in any way! if you write something slimy to a girl (I bet you anything that's what you keep getting deleted for), the flagged message, or string of them if it's im, are read by the moderators.

At least half the stuff that gets flagged is left up - a lot of times, even if it does break the rules (pet pics, closeups, etc). I can tell you that profiles and pictures that don't break the rules do not get taken down. they just don't. most of us manage to send messages back and forth to each other without getting flagged. the problem here is you. if a girl isn't interested, go away. don't say offensive, disgusting things to people you don't know. by the time you're ready for dirty talk, you've gotten her phone number or email (yes. for sure. 100%. if she won't give those to you, it is not time for whatever it is you're saying!) - so then you can move it over there.

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chris columbia
, US
Jan 26, 2018 10:32 am EST
Replying to comment of Octotroph

Dude, your comments are utter bull [censor]. You failed to read the comments! Why does OK Cupid state things like they are having "technical difficulties?" when in fact they are not? Why are they blacklisting people who do follow the terms? Why are they taking people's money and then blocking them? What type of scam are you creeps running? Done with OKC. You guys SUCK and should be reported to the police for extortion.

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RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Jun 19, 2018 5:54 pm EDT
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Thank you, man.. I wish so much that these balless abuse of power [censored] who hide behind keyboards could be found so I could end them... females are - ssholes and so are you b-tch-ss “mods” who protect these stuck up racist horrible [censored] who ruin these sites for real rare great men that just want a girlfriend; what we like and want. outside of black. and not a fat female or ghetto. [censored] you people who destroyed me literally because of these horrible racist impossible stuck up and soliciting prostitution females that you “mods” never ban

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NoMoreOKCforME
, US
Oct 03, 2018 6:41 pm EDT

I actually WAS a moderator and this happened to me...Said I had "violated the terms use". Like all of you, I was always very careful and respectful.

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RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Oct 07, 2018 10:23 am EDT
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Exactly but the police wont do anything

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RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Sep 07, 2019 12:37 pm EDT
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I wish so much that there was a legitimate way to get all of these horrible apps and sites shut down, I wish I could sue.. they get away with murder literally. And females are all just a lost horrible gender and cause. Every single one of them.

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lifecrimefitness
, US
Oct 12, 2012 9:22 am EDT

Go to a bar. There are no technical difficulties preventing you from walking in and meeting people LIVE. Probably cheaper than online services too! :)

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eduardobr61
, US
Jun 24, 2017 1:45 pm EDT

I recommend https://www.penpaland.com to make new friends for free..!

RickSoAloneInMD
RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Jan 12, 2018 7:15 am EST
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I cant...females just don’t like me, they don’t listen, No matter what, they give fake phone numbers, say they have stupid boyfriends, ...I want to date interracially and slim slender attractive so so badly and females in person are still [censor] and racist and shallow and impossible

RickSoAloneInMD
RickSoAloneInMD
Catonsville, US
Oct 07, 2018 10:22 am EDT
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