First off, i want to say that i'm not someone that advocates these dating sites and the times i've been on them i never really intended to used them to meet anyone, (mostly just to look at the hot pics). but i have heard horror stories about people getting douped like Sara above (sob story asking help with relationship offer attached, etc, etc.)
form what i've heard this is the kind of thing that is common on these online dating sites, but they are also common in the real world off the net relationships to. dont feel like your the only one thats been scammed or that its the internet aspect that screwed you over.
If anything you should realize one thing, its not the site that is on there to scam you. these sites are actually there so we lonely people might have a chance to find someone. not to say they dont want to make a quick buck from it, but the main scam they have is they lour you to there sight with flashy advertising and sexually suggestive material making oyu think this is the only way you can meet anyone, when you could just go take a nice walk or go shopping and meet someone in your area. Personally, as a man i would be exsatic if a atractive women walked up to me and said, "Hi, my names XXXX< whats your's. care to take me out for lunch." Maybe i'm a doup and would take the girl out and buy her food and not get anything out of it but a 15-20 minute convo with a girl that is just using me for a free meal but you never know, shrug.
Well, in close, I meet my current gf on one of these sites. I wasn't even looking for a gf. or i should say i didn't exspect to get one from the sight, but i payed for it on a promotion for a year and ended up getting a lot of junk, but in the end i also got a mail from my gf who i hit it off with. we have now been together for 7 years (not married yet, but we might as well be)... not to say that your going to get that real person that's not out there to scam you, but if you look for it you might find a realtionship that will work out just like you would in the real world. only diffence is you can meet alot of people online vs the few that happen to be in the market when you go shopping/man hunting .