Not Alone
reviews and complaints

I've been a reader of Not Alone (ENA) for quite some time now, since around 2008 or 2009, and I have to say, there are some really amazing posters on there who give such wise, thoughtful, and kind advice. I've seen some reviews with only one star, complaining about Holly and JMan, but I have to disagree. Those two have consistently been some of my favorite commentators! They are not rude, mean, or bullying anyone. They simply tell it how it is, and have different styles.

JMan is eloquent, yet not too wordy, and always gets straight to the point of the problem. He frequently brings up a perspective that should have been obvious, but no one else thought to point out. His advice is often worth its weight in gold. I find it fascinating that anyone could ever be offended by him, but I guess truth itself seems to be offensive these days.

And Holly is able to give the most remarkably concise comments and answers. She asks the pertinent questions, and yes, asking someone why their standards are so low is something important for them to consider. Telling them they should probably get tested is tough but truthful. Complaints about her (and JMan) come across as frivolous or done by Snowflakes. I've seen her go out of her way to try to understand an issue many times.

Overall, it's a great site, and if anything, it can be too addictive unfortunately. I've found myself spending hours on there, reading through threads and getting lost in the advice. But it's worth it, especially if you're looking for some genuine, honest advice from people who have been through similar situations. So, if you're looking for a community to turn to for support, ENA is definitely worth checking out.

I'm an old member of Loveshack.org and was feeling a bit lost after it shut down. I was looking for a new community where I could find support and understanding. That's when I stumbled upon eNotAlone and was thrilled to find a potential new home. I quickly created an account, but to my surprise, I received a message saying that I was banned for having multiple accounts. I was confused because I had never even visited the site before. I tried again, but the same thing happened. I was banned again. Finally, I tried using my old Hotmail email address, and that's when I discovered that I had an old account from 2007 with only two posts. I had completely forgotten about it, but apparently, it was enough to get me banned for having multiple accounts.

I contacted the admin, hoping for a compassionate conversation about the misunderstanding. After all, this is a support site, right? But instead, I received the most NASTY email replies. The admin didn't even listen to me or offer any sympathy. I was shocked and hurt. I had recommended eNotAlone to my old Loveshackers on Sitejabber, but now I regret it. The admin was heartless and didn't seem to care about my situation. All I wanted was to find a support community, and I made that very clear, but it didn't seem to matter.

I'm still searching for a better forum, and when I find one, I'll be sure to post it here. Shame on you, eNotAlone. You have made me feel more alone than ever.

I recently visited Not Alone (enotalone.com) in search of some support and advice. While there were some kind and compassionate individuals on the site, I must say that my overall experience was not a positive one. In fact, I found myself feeling more depressed and vulnerable than before I had even visited the forum.

To be fair, some of the advice given on the site may have been helpful, and I do believe that many of the users had good intentions. However, I was disappointed to find that I was judged and criticized by some of the moderators and other users. I was called names like "ridiculous," "boring," and "lame," which only served to make me feel worse about myself and my situation.

What's more, it seemed like some of the moderators hadn't even taken the time to read my posts thoroughly, as some of the criticism I received was completely unfounded and absurd. When I tried to stand up for myself and speak out against the bullying behavior, I was given a "warning" about being "abusive." This only added insult to injury, and I found myself feeling even more alone and unsupported.

While I understand that people have the right to express their opinions and thoughts freely on the site, I cannot in good conscience recommend it to others who are looking for a safe and supportive community. If you are feeling vulnerable or in need of validation, I would suggest looking elsewhere for help.

One of the moderators, Wiseman2, was particularly cruel and unkind to me. He mocked my posts and called me names, which I believe constitutes bullying behavior. No matter how old I am or what my situation may be, I do not believe that anyone deserves to be treated in such a manner.

In conclusion, while Not Alone may have some redeeming qualities, my personal experience was not a positive one. If you are looking for a supportive and caring community, I would suggest looking elsewhere. Remember, you deserve to be heard and validated, and there are many resources available to help you on your journey.

I've been using Not Alone (enotalone.com) for a while now, and I have to say, it's a mixed bag. On the one hand, it's supported by Tapatalk, which makes it easy to use on mobile devices. But on the other hand, some of the moderators and older users can be really nasty.

I've had a terrible experience with one of the moderators, HollyJ. She was really mean to me, and I've heard similar stories from other users. It's really not okay, especially since this forum attracts a lot of vulnerable people who are looking for help and support.

In fact, I'm really concerned about the lack of compassion on this site. It's almost like cyberbullying, and I worry that some people might be hurt by the harsh comments and criticism. I've even been harassed in my inbox by other users who didn't like what I had to say.

But it's not just the people on the site that are a problem. The overall website system is pretty crappy too. The mods will ban accounts for no reason, and they'll lock threads or block users if they're not interested in responding to them. It's really frustrating, and it makes me wonder if some of these serial posters are actually mods themselves.

All in all, I have to say that Not Alone is a bit of a circus. There are some really nasty, unqualified individuals on there, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who's looking for a supportive community. If you're looking for a better option, I'd suggest LipstickAlley. It's a younger crowd, but they're way more compassionate and supportive.

Not Alone is a website where people can come to seek support for their personal problems. However, it seems that some users on the site are more interested in judging others than providing a listening ear. While there are some kind-hearted individuals on the site, there are also those who seem to take pleasure in tearing others down.

One such user is jman, who appears to believe that he is above everyone else and has the right to pass judgment on others. He never has a nice word to say about anyone and seems to revel in making others feel bad about themselves. It's hard to understand how someone like him could be so self-righteous and cruel.

Another user who seems to enjoy belittling others is hollyj. She is quick to make snide comments and put others down, even when it's completely uncalled for. In one post, she tells someone to "Get tested! Then dump this clown, and ask yourself why your expectations are so low." It's clear that she takes pleasure in making others feel small and insignificant.

It's a shame that there are people like jman and hollyj on Not Alone, as they make it difficult for others to feel comfortable opening up about their problems. Instead of finding support, many users are met with harsh criticism and judgment. It's important for everyone to remember that we all have our struggles and no one is perfect. We should strive to be kind and understanding towards others, even if we don't always agree with them.

If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your problems without fear of judgment, Not Alone may not be the best choice. While there are some kind people on the site, there are also those who seem to enjoy tearing others down. It's always better to speak to a supportive friend or family member who will listen without judgment and offer a helping hand.

This website, Not Alone, is a place where people can go to seek advice and support during difficult times. However, in my experience, it is a breeding ground for cyberbullying. The platinum members, who are supposed to be the ones giving advice, often use their platform to bully and belittle those seeking help.

I am not even sure if these platinum members have any qualifications to be giving advice, other than being bitter and wanting to take it out on vulnerable people. One member in particular, hollyj, with her 17K posts, harassed me on my post and then turned around and called me a troll when I did nothing wrong. I felt ganged up on by a group of thin-skinned, awful people who were not anyone I would want advice from.

It is important to note that cyberbullying is illegal in schools and should not be encouraged on sites like this. You never know who is asking for help and how vulnerable they are. The platinum members need to get a life and be banned for life from the site.

Furthermore, the site is an outlet for censorship and dictatorial rules. If you are vulnerable and seeking breakup advice, I would not recommend going here as it could be detrimental to your mental health.

Lastly, the site does not allow you to delete your account or posts. Even if you break one of their many rules, they will not do it for you. I had to send a message to one of the platinum members who harassed me in order to get my account and posts deleted. This is unacceptable and shows a lack of concern for the well-being of their users.

In conclusion, Not Alone is a site that should be removed from the internet entirely. It is a breeding ground for cyberbullying and does not provide the support and advice that it claims to.

Not Alone (enotalone.com) is a website that can be helpful for those seeking advice and insight on difficult situations in their lives. However, it is important to note that there are some users who can be abusive and judgmental towards others. One user in particular, Hollyj, is known for their abrasive behavior and tendency to alienate those seeking help. It is clear that this individual is unhappy in their personal life and uses the forum as an outlet for their misery.

Unfortunately, the moderators of the site seem to be uninterested or unable to control this type of behavior. While it is understandable that they are volunteers and not professionals, there is a lack of control over the moderation. This can be frustrating for those seeking genuine help and advice.

Despite the negative behavior of some users, there are still those who are able to deliver opinions, recommendations, and overall help in a constructive way. It is important to take advantage of the blocking function and immediately block any users who engage in harassment or bullying behavior. It is also important to remember that these individuals who have thousands of posts are not professionals, but rather people who spend a lot of time on advice forums.

Overall, while Not Alone can be a helpful resource, it is important to be cautious and aware of the potential for abusive behavior from some users. It is always best to seek professional help when dealing with difficult situations in life.

This community ain't for everyone, and I gotta say, I agree with what the other folks are saying. There are a few decent users who really get where you're coming from (God bless 'em!), but most of the people I've run into are just plain critical and judgemental. They don't wanna help you out, they just wanna drag you down and make you feel like crap. They're always trying to project their own failures and problems onto you, and they don't care about lifting you up or making you feel better. It's like they get off on making other people feel bad.

I've been in situations like this before, where I've shared my vulnerabilities with people who didn't deserve it. They were just like the folks on this site - always trying to tear me down and make me feel like I wasn't good enough. It's like they're vultures, just waiting to swoop in and pick at your bones.

The only thing I've learned from this site is that you shouldn't take advice from unsuccessful people. That's all you'll find here. They'll relate every story you have to their own failures, and they'll make sure you know that you're not alone in your misery. But the truth is, they're just dragging you down with them. If you try to talk about your successes or feel good about yourself, they'll just call you egotistical and say you're making things up. They can't stand the idea that someone else might be doing better than they are.

And if you try to disagree with them or stand up for yourself, they'll get all defensive and start attacking you. It's like they can't handle anyone who doesn't agree with them. They're just bullies, plain and simple.

But here's the thing - I've dealt with bullies before, and I know how to handle them. I gave it right back to them, and that shut them up pretty quick. And unlike some of the other folks who've reviewed this site, I wasn't banned. But even though I got the better of them, I still wouldn't recommend this site to anyone. It's just not worth the hassle.

This forum ain't worth your time, trust me. I was hoping to find a supportive group of people who could give me some outside perspective on my situation, but all I got was negativity. The users on here are quick to blame and shame you for your dating experiences and make you feel like a bad or dumb person. They act like they know everything about you and your situation, even though they don't know anything at all. They're always trying to drag people down and make them feel worse about themselves.

I tried looking for other threads, but it was the same thing over and over again. They're so critical and judgmental about you and your partners, without even knowing anything about you. They'll tell you to give up and cut contact, even though that might not be the best solution for you. They're just a bunch of negative people who failed in their own relationships and don't want others to succeed where they have failed.

And to make matters worse, you can't even delete your old posts without paying for it. Seriously? Paying for privacy? That's just ridiculous. I thought this was supposed to be an anonymous forum where you could talk about sensitive and personal topics without worrying about being judged or shamed. But apparently, that's not the case. Some users even found my old posts from years ago and used them against me to shame me on my past relationships. It was so rude and not helpful at all.

So my advice to you is to stay away from this community. It's not worth your time or energy. There are plenty of other forums out there that are much more supportive and helpful. Don't waste your time with these negative people who only want to bring you down.

It's been a hot minute since I've been on a forum or in a chat room, but let me tell you, stumbling upon Not Alone (enotalone.com) was like a breath of fresh air. I'm here to give some encouragement to anyone who's had a bad experience with online communities. You have the power within yourself to comfort and encourage yourself. Most online communities are toxic because there's a power struggle, a clash of values, and just plain immature people that hide behind a screen. It made me think about how we communicate in modern times, and while I am all for technology and online interactions, I believe that we must be as selective as we are in our daily lives.

You have the power to encourage yourself and to form real relationships with people who are healthy and will add value to your life. Most of the people that create clique groups online and engage in cyberbullying are broken people. They do not have a sense of control in their lives, so they form these groups to feel they belong somewhere.

Remember, we are all whole people. We don't need anyone to complete us. So from now on, I decided to seek out healthy and wholesome people - individuals - who are not competitive, lacking home training and integrity. These online groups cannot replace real friendships and while making new friends takes time, you are whole and complete RIGHT NOW!

This is how we overcome toxicity and cyberbullying. But not relying on these "resources" to soothe and comfort us but standing on our own two feet until we find healthy and real interactions.

Now, onto my review of Not Alone. I have to say, I'm not surprised at how low the ratings are for this website. Stay away at all costs. This website is full of trolls and corrupt administration/mods. They have clique groups, and mob groups that attack you if you speak your mind, defend yourself or go against what the common herd is doing. It's like high school all over again, but worse because you can't just leave and go home.

If you are healthy, mature, and a person who is seeking those that are like-minded, don't join. They also don't delete accounts and there's no way to delete mistakes or posts. It's like a permanent record of your worst moments.

I hope this helps someone! Stay safe out there, folks.

I was really excited when I stumbled upon Not Alone (enotalone.com) because I was hoping to get some helpful dating advice. Unfortunately, my experience on the site was not a positive one. Instead of receiving support, I was met with a lot of negativity and harsh comments. I was even prevented from commenting on my own post, which was really frustrating.

I have to say, I was really disappointed with the way I was treated on Not Alone. The people there seemed more interested in blaming me for my problems than actually helping me find solutions. And don't even get me started on Holly - she was one of the worst offenders when it came to being rude and unhelpful.

Overall, I would definitely recommend staying away from Not Alone. The so-called "support" you'll find there is anything but supportive. It's a shame, because I was really hoping to find a community of people who could relate to my dating struggles and offer some helpful advice. But instead, I just found a bunch of losers who seemed more interested in tearing me down than lifting me up.

Not Alone (enotalone.com) is a website that offers advice and support for people who are struggling with relationships. However, some users have reported that the site uses extreme censorship tools and moderators to target men who request advice from the forum. In addition, some users have reported that the site is extremely racist and hostile towards men.

One user reported that they had a simple concern about their relationship, but a moderator with sensitive feelings targeted them for no reason. This kind of behavior is unacceptable and can be very damaging to people who are already struggling with relationship issues.

Despite these concerns, there are still many people who find the site helpful and supportive. If you are looking for advice and support for your relationship issues, it may be worth checking out Not Alone (enotalone.com). However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and to take steps to protect yourself from any negative experiences.

Not Alone (enotalone.com) is a website that claims to offer support for people who are struggling with personal relationships. However, my experience with this site was far from supportive. In fact, I found it to be quite toxic and harmful.

One of the most common users on the site, HollyJ, was particularly toxic. Instead of offering helpful advice or support, she seemed to relish in tearing people down and making them feel worse about themselves. Her comments were often cruel and dismissive, and she seemed to take pleasure in making people feel like they were wrong for having normal human emotions.

If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your struggles and receive helpful advice, I would not recommend Not Alone. Instead, I would suggest seeking out a therapist or counselor who can provide you with the personalized support and guidance you need. While online communities can be helpful, they can also be quite harmful, as I unfortunately learned firsthand on Not Alone.

I had a really bad experience on Not Alone, a supposed support forum. I was looking for help with my marriage, which has been abusive, and I was feeling really confused and conflicted. Unfortunately, the responses I got from other members were really mean and unhelpful. They blamed me for being a victim and even accused me of seeking attention. It was really hurtful and made me feel even worse about my situation.

I also had a run-in with a member named Hollyj, who was particularly nasty to me. When I tried to defend myself and call out the mean comments, I was banned for "trolling". This was really unfair, as I was genuinely seeking help and support.

Honestly, I don't think this site is helpful at all. If anything, it just made me feel worse and more alone. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who is struggling with abuse or any other difficult situation. It's just not a safe or supportive environment.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that this site should be shut down. It's not doing anyone any good and is only causing more harm. I hope that anyone who is looking for help and support can find it elsewhere, in a more caring and compassionate community.

So, I recently stumbled upon this website called Not Alone and I have to say, I was pretty excited to join a community where I could share my experiences and get some advice. At first, everything seemed to be going well. I shared one of the most heart-breaking love experiences of my life and the people there were really helpful. But then, I made the mistake of sharing some more and that's when things started to go downhill.

Suddenly, they were asking me if I had anything better to do than whine and complain. I mean, come on, isn't that what this website is for? To share our experiences and get some support? But it didn't stop there. One person even accused me of making things up and trolling another user named "Wiseman" (or something like that). I don't know who that is, but that's not the point. The point is that they were accusing me of something I didn't do.

And then, to make matters worse, someone locked my topics. I was just asking for advice on how to stop some of my bad behaviors and they were bashing me for having too many unrealistic problems. One user even kept saying that I was lying and telling everyone something that wasn't true. I mean, seriously? I stood up for myself and the next day, I was banned.

Honestly, I was so disappointed with this community. They were so unhelpful with new users like me and such hypocrites. I would never recommend this website to anyone because they're so full of crap.

My experience with Not Alone (enotalone.com) was absolutely terrible. I am currently in the process of trying to have my account and posts removed from this site. The people on here are incredibly rude, nasty, and judgmental. It's a very low-class place, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

If you dare to stand up for yourself, the lame 'clique' on this site will gang up on you and make you out to be the bad guy. It's a major case of gaslighting, and it's not a pleasant experience at all. There NEEDS to be a block button for the miserable sows who stink up threads (hollyj is one of the worst troublemakers on the site). This website is just foul, and I can't stress enough how horrible my experience was.

UPDATE - I politely asked the mod to please delete my account and remove my posts, but he didn't answer. Instead, I got a pop-up saying that I was permanently banned for being 'rude'. Meanwhile, almost everyone on here is RUDE as hell for no reason at all lol. Once you're banned, you can't even see the content - so I assume my posts (that I requested be removed) are still being commented on. I don't think this is right at all.

Overall, my experience with Not Alone was super negative. The people on here are bitter, miserable trolls, and the mod is unprofessional. It's a ghetto site, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

So, I was curious about this guy I was seeing and wanted a different perspective on the situation. I decided to create a post on Not Alone's Dating forum. After posting, I received a response from one of their regulars that seemed a bit harsh. They accused me of making excuses for men and said that the guy I was seeing wasn't interested in me. I felt like they didn't even read or understand my post. Unfortunately, I received many similar comments from other users. Most of the replies were filled with blaming and judging. Out of the 20 replies I received, only 2 were reasonable.

After receiving the second judgmental reply, I decided to troll them back. I mentioned how attractive and in shape I was, which really got them going. I was called arrogant and all sorts of things that I didn't expect. At this point, I realized that I couldn't delete my account, so I decided to be super rude and use profanity towards a couple of them. As expected, I was banned from the site and my post was deleted. Problem solved, right?

Well, I found that if you just use another IP address and browser, you can easily get back to the site. However, I didn't find any use in going back. It was just a waste of time. I found more useful information on Quora and other sites. Not Alone's Dating forum wasn't helpful at all.

I recently had a negative experience with enotalone.com. I posted a controversial post and was given 10 'points' and a permanent ban for what I believe was no reason at all. I attached a picture to show my frustration. It's disappointing to see that there are not many online forums that offer a kind, supportive, and non-judgmental ear for those who need it. It makes me wonder where people who feel a little 'different' or don't conform to 'social norms' go for support.

I have found that other forums like Loveshack.org and The Diversion Forum are just as dreadful as enotalone.com. It's time for someone to come up with an inclusive, warm, respectful, and mutually accountable chat forum that everyone wants. Unfortunately, I don't have the technical or IT skills to create one myself. Does anyone know someone who can help me set up a chat forum?

I want a forum that doesn't have labels, inane videos, 'psychology' tips, arbitrary mods, pics, weight shaming, 'learning disabilities' shaming, 'slut' shaming, Alphamales, infidelity or sex talks, or categories. These are just a few random ideas off the top of my head.

My advice to others is to stay away from enotalone.com. It's not worth your time. Instead, seek support from friends and family who can offer a kind and supportive ear.

This website, eNotAlone, is a place where people can go to seek support and advice from others who may be going through similar situations. However, my experience on this site was not a positive one. It felt like being thrown into a virtual coliseum where I had to endure the beasts of judgement, victim shaming, and negativity. While there were a few people who showed some decency and compassion, most people on the site had unilateral, biased views and were very quick to judge strangers based solely on the "tip of the iceberg" they were allowed to see through the stories that were posted.

It seemed like many people were on the site just to externalize their frustrations and take out their anger on others. This was especially harmful for those who were already in a state of emotional fragility. Instead of receiving the support they needed, they were stripped naked by the community and left even worse than they arrived. If you are prone to depression and have suicidal ideation, then I strongly advise you to stay away from this site.

My experience on eNotAlone left me feeling defeated and hopeless. In a world where so many people are feeling vulnerable for all kinds of reasons, it is important to find a community that is supportive and caring. Unfortunately, this is not what I found on eNotAlone. Instead, I found a community that spread more emotional harm and seemed not to care a bit.

If you are looking for a supportive community to help you through a difficult time, I suggest you look elsewhere. There are many other groups and forums out there that are more qualified to provide the support and advice you need. Protect yourself from eNotAlone and find a community that truly cares about your well-being.

If you're feeling like you're being harassed by members of Not Alone, you should know that you have the right to ask them to stop. Even if they feel like they're justified in their actions, it's important that they respect your boundaries. If they continue to post and make you feel harassed after you've asked them to stop, that's considered cyberbullying or online harassment.

It's important to note that Not Alone is based in New York state. If you feel like the members of this site have bullied you or are continuing to bully you, it's possible that Not Alone could be held responsible for facilitating bullying. While they may shut out and ban members who complain about these people, the documented bullies remain.

If you or someone you know has experienced negative mental health effects from the bullying on this site, it's important to know that this is not okay. It's important to take care of your mental health and seek help if necessary.

It's also important to note that while these bullies may feel safe behind their screens, many of them live in New York state or other places in the US where there are protections against this type of online behavior. They are not as anonymous as they may think. If you've suffered or if someone has harmed themselves as a result of the bullying on this site, you may be able to file a John Doe suit against this forum to uncover their personal information.

Overall, while Not Alone may seem like a helpful resource for those seeking support, it's important to be aware of the potential for bullying and harassment on the site. It may be best to avoid this forum altogether and seek support from other sources.