Surviving Infidelity
Reviews and Complaints

SurvivingInfidelity is a website that deals with the sensitive issue of infidelity. However, my experience with this site has been nothing short of a nightmare. The site is divided into two sections, one for the betrayed spouses and the other for the wayward spouses. Unfortunately, both sections are filled with people who are bitter, competitive, and downright vile.

The wayward side is particularly problematic. The spouses of the betrayed spouses are constantly posting on this side, making it impossible to trust any of their posts. They seem to be in a contest to see who can be the most "remorseful," which is honestly pathetic. I can't believe their spouses buy into that crap.

The betrayed side is no better. The advice given on this side is almost criminal. There are several posters, such as sunflower30 and Hope2b, who are so bitter and vile that you can't help but understand why their spouses cheated. As a betrayed spouse myself, I found myself rooting for their spouses to dump these entitled, vulgar, vile $#*!es.

Men are particularly screwed on this site. The moderating is terrible, and many awesome members have been banned for speaking the truth. Uncertainone was a brilliant, sage, wayward (although I never thought she was) that posted gems. However, you won't find them anymore because Deeply Scared deleted all of them. That petty little cheater broke her own site's guidelines. Shocking.

In conclusion, SurvivingInfidelity is a horrible site that is terribly run with damaged and dangerous posters. I no longer post on this site, and I know many others who have left for the same reasons. If you're looking for support and advice on infidelity, I suggest looking elsewhere. Reddit and other sites are far, far better than that absolute mess.

I was a member of SurvivingInfidelity some years back. I attended a get-together with a bunch of other members, and during my flight back home (I live on the other side of nowhere), something changed on the site. When I asked about the change, I was summarily banned. What followed was a really long discussion with comments from MH, DS, and their minions that I had been warned by private messages about my posts - which was a blatant lie. None of the admins/mods had ever contacted me privately at all, about anything. Following this episode, many people whom I had met at the GTG, and some whom I had not met but had protested, were also banned.

My takeaway is that you have to be prepared to kiss the [censored] of the owners/admins/mods of the site. If you do, you are golden. If you don't, you are out.

More objectively - I still occasionally look at the site (I'm a writer, gathering material for a novel, lol). It is skewed toward those in "Reconciliation" i.e. willing to put up with all kinds of $#*!e... over and over again. Read the tag lines and listing of "D-days". It's a celebration when a "wayward" supposedly "gets it," whatever that means. On the other hand, there are so many bitter people there who delve into armchair psychology that it is literally sickening.

If you come across this site and are seriously looking for support, run and don't look back. Unless of course, you need fodder for your novel.

Are you someone who has been betrayed by your spouse and is looking for a community to help you heal? SurvivingInfidelity might not be the best place for you. While there are some helpful resources and stories of reconciliation, there are also some members who seem to revel in misery and negativity. If you dare to share a positive story of healing and growth, be prepared for the harpies to swoop in and tear you apart. They seem to think that if they can't have a happy marriage, no one else can either.

It's almost comical how hostile and defensive some of these members can be. They'll deny writing something even though it's right there in black and white, and then they'll enlist their friends to gang up on you too. It's like a bad high school movie, but with grown adults. If you're looking for a good laugh, it might be worth joining just for the entertainment value.

One member in particular stands out as particularly vicious. She's only staying with her husband because she wants him to buy her a new car. Really? That's your reason for staying married? It's no wonder her advice is so terrible. If your spouse isn't meeting your arbitrary and meaningless terms for reconciliation, maybe it's time to reevaluate whether they were ever really committed to the relationship in the first place.

If you're looking for a more positive and supportive community, I would recommend checking out Bloom for Women through an organization called Addo Recovery. They offer a variety of resources and support for women who have experienced betrayal trauma, and the community is much more focused on healing and growth than tearing each other down.

I never thought I'd be writing a review, but I have to warn you about SurvivingInfidelity. I've been a member for years, but it's not what it used to be. It's just a sad excuse for a social club now. I don't remember it being like this when I first joined. The group mentality and the small group of bitter betrayed people who run the site are just too much. They run off anyone who has a moderate, rational viewpoint.

Today, I saw a post from a betrayed person who had cheated on every relationship they had been in. A newer member called them out on it, but the regulars swooped in and coddled them. It's sad that a newbie has more sense than the messes who run every forum on that site. I was betrayed myself and have since remarried, so I know the pain. I've recommended the site to others, but they never last. They leave because of the cult mentality.

I thought they were being too sensitive, but no. It's basically, "We know it all and are the experts. No other way works, and how dare you not be hateful and bitter." The condescending and patronizing tone of their posts is offensive. They gang up on anyone who disagrees. Sister Milkshake still googles and stalks her husband's OW years later, and she makes nothing but excuses for anyone who has been betrayed, no matter how appalling they act.

Even the few who post in the wayward section have become insufferable. It's just sad. This used to be a great site, but now it's nothing more than a club, as another reviewer stated. It's a really pathetic one that no one should want to join. Run. Reddit and other sites are far better than this mess. Baggage Reclaim is a great resource too.

SurvivingInfidelity is a website that claims to offer guidance and support to those who have been cheated on. However, my experience with this site has been far from positive. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it is a dangerous place to seek advice.

One of the biggest issues with SurvivingInfidelity is that it promotes the idea of staying with your cheater, no matter how terrible the situation may be. They push the idea that leaving a cheater is wrong, and that you should always try to work things out. This is incredibly harmful, as it can lead people to stay in abusive or toxic relationships.

Another problem with this site is the presence of Sister Milkshake. This person is held up as some kind of guru, but in reality, she is just another sad example of someone who has settled for a life of misery. Following her advice is a surefire way to end up unhappy and unfulfilled.

The site also promotes the idea that therapy is the solution to all problems. While therapy can be helpful in some cases, it is not a magic cure-all. Cheaters are not "broken" and cannot be fixed with a few sessions of therapy. This kind of thinking is dangerous and can lead to people staying in unhealthy relationships for far too long.

Finally, the site is full of people who are in denial about their partners' behavior. They diagnose their partners with all kinds of disorders, from Narcissistic Personality Disorder to sex addiction. This kind of armchair diagnosis is not helpful and can actually be harmful. It can lead people to believe that their partner's behavior is out of their control, when in reality, they are making a choice to cheat.

In conclusion, I would not recommend SurvivingInfidelity to anyone. It is a toxic and dangerous place that promotes unhealthy relationships and harmful thinking. If you have been cheated on, seek help from a qualified therapist or counselor, not from this site.

Surviving Infidelity is a website that caters to betrayed spouses who are seeking support and guidance after experiencing infidelity in their relationship. As someone who has been through this painful experience, I was drawn to the site in hopes of finding a community of people who could relate to my struggles and offer me some comfort.

At first, I was pleased to find that the site had a wealth of resources available to help me navigate my emotions and begin the healing process. However, as I spent more time on the site, I began to notice a disturbing trend. Many of the members seemed to be focused on seeking revenge against their cheating partners, rather than working towards forgiveness and healing.

I was shocked to see that some members were actually encouraging each other to engage in destructive and harmful behaviors, such as hacking into their partner's email accounts or verbally abusing them in front of their children. While I understand that infidelity can cause intense pain and anger, I do not believe that these types of behaviors are healthy or productive.

Unfortunately, when I tried to voice my concerns about these behaviors, I was met with hostility and told that I was not being supportive enough. It seemed that any criticism of the site's members or their actions was not welcome, and that the only acceptable response was to offer unconditional support and encouragement.

As someone who values honesty and integrity, I found this attitude to be deeply troubling. I believe that it is important to hold ourselves accountable for our actions, even in the face of extreme emotional pain. While I understand that everyone copes with infidelity differently, I do not believe that making excuses for bad behavior is the path to healing.

Overall, I would caution anyone who is considering joining Surviving Infidelity to be aware of the site's culture and approach. While there are certainly some helpful resources available, the site's focus on revenge and bitterness may not be the best fit for everyone. If you are looking for true healing and growth, I would recommend seeking out the guidance of a professional therapist or counselor.

I'm really happy to have found this site where people can share their experiences with infidelity. I've talked to other members and we all agree that this site has had its ups and downs. It used to be a really decent site with members who were suffering, but also had some very strong voices that were far enough along in their healing to provide balance and healthy support. However, it seems like things have completely gone off the rails. I blame the staff and the site owners. DS seems petty and petulant. She doesn't seem to have healed from her own affair and has just substituted SI for another man.

The current members seem to have a collective pathology that is ensuring new members don't stay long and keeps the dysfunctional around for years. There is a member who actually posts about how she married her husband so she could have a baby daddy for her child and then added three more with him. She actually stated that she loves him because of how good he is to her and how well he takes care of her so she can stay home and homeschool. As a betrayed spouse, I find this absolutely appalling. I have never believed there was any excuse for cheating, but seriously? Treating this guy like a walking wallet and now she has him on a very short leash and wonders if she still loves him? She never loved him. Damn, woman. Take care of yourself and your kids! Have some bloody independence and pride.

Sadly, none of the good people that would call that stuff out before are around anymore. Now, it's just the enablers who bitterly wallow in "oh you poor poor thing". They need to shut the site down and start fresh or at least sell/resign for a group that will be in a far better place to offer some genuine support and also call out wayward thought processes on BOTH sides. I'm leaving and I know of several members that barely even go on anymore. You can really tell by how slow the forums are and how few people respond that aren't the "in" crowd.

DS, do the right thing, for once. Step aside. It's time for a change.

Survivinginfidelity is a website that claims to help people who have been betrayed by their partners. However, in reality, it is a place where people wallow in their misery and give terrible advice. I joined the site hoping to find some solace, but instead, I found a bunch of bitter men who were oozing all over the site. It's not surprising that there are very few men on the site who are actually trying to survive infidelity. Most men I know would never be caught dead posting on a website like this.

Betrayal is a part of life, and if you're using this site to deal with it, you're not going to make it. The moderators on the site are a joke. They have made a wayward person, Walkingoneggshells, a guide or moderator. This person brought another man into their home and played footsies with him until he announced that he wanted the betrayed spouse's wife. She LEFT with him, and after he dumped her, she came crawling back and now gives advice on how if you viewed your marriage as less than perfect, THAT was your issue, not the horrific betrayal you concocted to deal with it.

There is another wayward man on the site who is just there to out wayward the other waywards by all his wisdom (lacking completely) and will argue repeatedly how others are just too stubborn to see his brilliant pablum. No dude, you're simply not capable of linear thought processes and reason. But nice try.

I urge people to get help from a good counselor or a wise friend before ever reading on this disaster of a website. Recently, I was notified by another member that a man raped his wife and posted about his actions that were clear rape. The betrayed men on the site glossed over it and told him what a great guy he was and how he needed to get away from his cheating wife. He raped his wife! Nothing from the site admin or mods, and it's just a complete horror. I hope the wives of these men read what they have said and run fast and far.

My experience with SurvivingInfidelity (SI) has been a rollercoaster ride. I'm not one to beat around the bush, I say it like it is. However, my straightforward approach didn't sit well with some members of the community, particularly DS and MH. They suspended my account for a week because I expressed my personal opinion on divorce and suggested a tougher love approach. I also called out SadinAZ for being passive-aggressive in one of my threads. Little did they know, I was going through a tough time with my cheating husband, who was about to return home after being away for months. I needed the support of the SI community, but instead, I felt like they were cutting me off when I needed them the most. I reacted to what I felt was a harsh punishment, and they demanded that I apologize to SadinAZ, who I believe is part of the Collaborative circle jerk thing they have going on at SI. I refused to apologize, and they banned me within minutes of the discussion. I thought I was safe to express myself, but instead, they dropped the ax on me.

Despite my negative experience, I still believe that the concept of SI is brilliant. However, the egotistical jerks who moderate it like to keep their group small. Turntheothercheek was hands down the best person on that website, but they banned her for reasons unknown to me. I think she was too legendary for them. SI is insecure as $#*!.

Since then, I've found a better long-term home at Talkaboutmarriage. They are tough love, but they offer a much more varied opinion to cherry-pick from. They often say, "take what you can and leave the rest" at SI, but when they repeat the same opinion over and over, it's hard to pick and leave when there's little variety in the form of advice. TAM is much better in that respect, and I'm not afraid of being banned for having a minor difference of opinion.

In conclusion, my experience with SI has been a mixed bag. While I appreciate the support I received from some members, the moderators' behavior left a sour taste in my mouth. I believe that SI has the potential to be a great community, but they need to work on their moderation and be more accepting of differing opinions.

I gotta say, SurvivingInfidelity is a real trip. As a teacher, I know that plagiarism tools need a big ol' sample to really get a sense of similarities, but I'm not sure that applies to this site. Full disclosure, I got banned from it (thanks a lot, Deeply Scared, you saint), but I still check it out every now and then just for kicks. It's like a bad movie that you can't stop watching, you know?

My biggest issue with SI is that it seems to encourage people to wallow in their infidelity and make it a defining part of their identity. Like, yeah, I've been cheated on too, but I'm not gonna let that be the only thing people know about me. SI seems to normalize this hyper-victimization, where everyone is either pure and innocent or weak and broken. It's like a Disney movie, but for adults, and it's not helpful.

The moderators recently had to tell people to be nice because some new members felt bullied, which is a good thing, but the old-timers are still a problem. Sister Milkshake is the worst, in my opinion. Her posts are rough and tacky, like she's writing from the corner of a biker bar or something. And her thinking is just all over the place. She can't seem to move on, and it's a terrible influence on others.

I get why people go to SI, but I don't think it's healthy to stay there forever. Infidelity is a terrible thing, but it doesn't have to define you. There's more to life than that.

People, stay away from the company www.survivinginfidelity.com. I was a member within a year, but it was waste of my time and money. Also, it was mentioned that the company provided support and help in situation, when your lovely person betrayed you. But they didn’t help or listen and some of the forums were closed at all, so all members weren’t satisfied with such attitude. Don’t register.

Don’t visit the website www.survivinginfidelity.com. I joined it recently and thought that it would help me to improve my relationship with my spouse. I was disappointed, ‘coz the website provide really useless tips and advices. I simple wasted my time and nothing changed. I don’t advise other couples to use this website, ‘coz it wouldn’t help you. I wonder if there are other people, who had the same experience. Let’s share views about this website.

I recently divorced with my husband and had tough time, and my friend advised me to visit the website www.survivinginfidelity.com. So I registered on the website and started to attend different chats and forums. But I wasn’t happy with that, because all people from this website were addicted to attention. They posted and tried to help in order to get positive reviews and admiration. They didn’t care about you and your feelings. Don’t recommended website. Post your reviews and comments.