Missouri Highway Patrol review: Officer refusing to take citizen's criminal complaint and more

July 8, 2020, my husband was killed in a traffic accident on Hwy 171, 3 miles south of Carl Junction, MO. He had 1500. in his wallet and it was not there when we got his personal belongings 3 weeks later (and after the Missouri Highway Patrol notified his ex wife of 26 years ago and we didnt know of his death for 5 days). When I called the patrolman in charge of the accident about who had given him my husbands i.d. and was it in the wallet, he was complaining about how he had to be woken up at 3:00a.m. and that he couldn't remember. I asked about who is responsible for chain of custody for a victims personal belongings, he didn't know. After more times of him saying he didn't remember many details I asked about because he was woken up at 3:00 a.m. I ended the call. After receiving his accident report, there were no details at all on any of the things I asked about, and I made some inquiries and investigated what I could on my own. I finally decided to call him back and at least report the theft as a crime so it would be documented. I told him I wasn't interested in the money (although of course I needed it more than ever now), but that I was sure he would want to know that someone at the scene had robbed a man who was lying dead in the road. All's the officer would say to me was, "Everyone says their person had money on them". I explained that he had been no where else and that I was 100% sure he had it and my main concern was the horridness of the crime and I wanted it reported. He said, "Everyone says their person had money on them". I told him he did have the money in his wallet and that I would sign a sworn statement that I would not take the money if they gave it to me, a charity could have it and that I realized it was blood money and long gone but the crime itself was so awful that I insist a report be filed. He answered, "Everyone says they had money on them". I asked him wasn't he concerned that someone, a first responder on that scene had stolen money from my poor husband, dead and couldn't defend himself or his property? He responded that "Everyone says they had money on them" and he said he wasn't going to take the report. I said who do I report it to since he was the lead investigator? He said, "I don't know, try the county or something I guess." I was able to reach a deputy at Jasper Country Sheriff's Dept. and while on the line he phoned a friend who was a Missouri Highway Patrolman and his friend said Yes, it was that patrolman's duty to have taken the report. The deputy advised me to file a complaint to internal affairs after he heard how rude and unprofessional the Highway Patrolman had been to me, and in the meantime to write a statement with all the details and email it to him and he would turn it over to his boss to get to the right person to file the complaint. So I sent it to him and I filed a complaint with Missouri Highway Patrol's Internal Affairs, and 8 days later got a call from the Internal Affairs lady. She said well besides being rude and all, the officer did a good job filling out the accident report (details like speed, skid marks, etc). I said that is fine, but who is responsible for this victims personal belongings, and don't they have to put in their report who the first responders were, and why wasn't the truck driver tested for drugs? She told me that he was given a breathalyzer (which all reports in paper and officer's report it said he was tested for alcohol by blood), but she said in Missouri there had to be 2 fatalities for the driver to be tested for drugs. I was dumbfounded. I had found out that over 6 calls were made to sheriff's department of him walking in roadway (it was very dark and no where else to walk), but the deputy who went to look for him went to far one direction and did not see him. Then I asked if coroner who called time of death 9 minutes after arriving on scene, he would have been one of the first on scene. She said, no he wasn't there to call time of death, someone else did and they report to coroner and he writes it down that way. All the paper's and report said the coroner himself called time of death. Well I asked, who called the time of death then, it was not in the report, and she said she didn't know, the officer wasn't required to put any of that in the report (single page report with a few type written details of the accident itself, nothing else). When I told her that her officer refused to take a criminal report from a citizen she responded, "Well, not to make an excuse for him, but he may have been having a bad day". I told her how he was rude and brushed me off the first call, and just complained to a grieving wife how he had to get out of bed. I also said I am sure the officer's see these accidents and can get desensitized to it but he still had the obligation to take my report whether he believed it or not. So, seeing I was getting no where with her, I asked some more questions and then she surprised me by asking what I thought would be appropriate punishment for the officer. I said I don't know what your policy is about refusing to take the criminal report but the highest should be implemented on him. Then I said for the way he treated me, he should have to go to some sort of class or counseling to train on how to treat families of victims instead of complaining about being woke up to do his job and call me a liar when I reported the missing money, and I didn't say it, but I was sure I would get a call from him or letter apologizing (which I never got). Right when I hung up, I tried to call her back and no answer. I had a moment to think and thought I wanted the officer to watch the video of the song my husband wrote for me and so he could see us and hear the beautiful song he had written and maybe see we were humans and deserved so much better. I have been trying to get a hold of her for almost 3 months, no call back from the patrolman's boss, nor have I received the letter from his boss that is stated I would receive with the outcome (it's on their webpage under their duties and responsibilities). I left him 2 messages by phone, and one by email and no response. So now, I have no idea if the report was filed, I didn't get to request the cop listen and watch the video (I thought it was the least he could do), and no response from the cops boss on outcome. I have been ignored and treated like dirt from them like my husband didn't matter, I didn't matter and it is beyond belief how the whole thing has been handled. My other main concern and what I am not believing is that they have a monster loose and don't care and the citizens of their jurisdiction deserve to know. Also, the coroner refused to speak to me because we were common law married and Missouri doesn't recognize common law even though we live in Colorado. The whole thing was such a mess, and I can't close this door until justice is done for my husband.