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Tammy Hinkle posted the wrong burial site I have messaged her to ask her to take down.

Jane Nevins will moved and a stranger put her information up It wont allow me to send him a message to be taken down. his name is Wayne

I do not know him.

Jane Ann Nevins in our lady is my mother I am moving her next to my brother. Brian Nevins is my brother. I am the owner of these grave sites and would like to put correct information out there please please have them take them down

Michelle Nevins Link

This organization posted information about my deceased husband, Doyle Vonallmen, without my prior knowledge or approval. Opinions, not my husband's, were included. As a long time participant in geneology, this type posting should not be allowed without next of kin prior approval. I have been a long time participant of the Find A Grave organization so I was surprised that inaccurate information has been posted about my husband.

they have no right to all ow postings of someones family, this is ghoulish disgusting behavior making money form someones dead loved ones. I want my family removed you bunch of ghouls, like this is some internet egg hunt, my family is not forgotten, i visit them often how dare you sick fiends, REMOVE THE INFO tired of asking, next you are going to get sued

All these posts from Findagrave contributors going on about how hard they work harvesting graves makes my French butt tired. These people live on Findagrave because they r addicted. There is also a certain sense of satisfaction sticking their noses in other peoples business. What they really need is professional help and a long vacation from Findagrave.

My husband of 55 years died, and I wrote his memorial, provided photos, and added names of his parents, spouse (me) and his two children. I also have written memorials for about 18 in [censored], but Ms Gauthier does not transfer ownership of this memorial to me. She removed all names at the end of my written memorial. My adult children are frantic! I am not able to addimportant information to the memorial - I locked out of my soulmates memorial by a stranger. She does not abide by the rules of [censored] - she will not use names of living people! She does not respond to your edits block where I wrote last year and this last week. She has her own rules and does not respond! please - transfer this memorial to me. his name: Robert Bradley Stewart, [protected], in Barre, Vermont. My name: Irene Aja Stewart

- I am begging.

Multiple strangers took pictures of my two babies' gravesites within two weeks of their burials and were managing pages about them without my permission or knowledge. My husband and I felt so angry and violated when we discovered it years later. It popped up on our Ancestry tree as a "hint" about our two dead sons. We were, of course, shocked how there could be any records about them. There was no obituary posted online or anything like that. To find out that the site is monetized/for-profit takes it to another level of unethical. This feels extremely desecrating to us. Profiting off of where we are burying our dead babies? How do people not realize how violating and disrespectful this is to do to parents? Or any family member who has lost someone for that matter. Not everyone has the same beliefs about the dead, and to think that it is universally honoring the dead by making these sites is very presumptive.

A long standing member of [censored] # [protected] Andrew L has repeatedly been wire brushing gravestones which is harmful. It is causing "harm to entity" as stated in the Community rules. Please censor or ban him from this destruction of private property. I have complained several times. he needs to be spoke to by YOU! My husband and I are cemetery conservators.

All information provided and every one of my family members is inaccurate. Even misspelled names that are shown in headstone pics! You should all be deeply ashamed to misrepresent yourselves and to profit from our losses. I feel belittled that my family memorials look like they were put together by a kindergarten class clipping random words from a catalog. I want to see accurate information. My Father is not dead as stated. His middle name is Edward. However he is aged and ill so this hits home especially hard. It would be horrible for the media to make a big deal of this but turning them on to it isn't beyond me, so please, fix it or lose it but do something about it.

Find-a-grave employees are very slow to complete memorial transfer requests when all regulatory hoops have been successfully "jumped".

Specifically, I began requesting the transfer of my great-grandmother's memorial page in late March of 2023, by contacting the current memorial manager (who is not family, and has no connection to my ancestor).

When i received no reply in a month, I contacted Find-a-grave support, explaining that I had followed the exact steps outlined in the FAQ on the site, and requested mediation. I was sent a "form" reply after 10 days, advising me to follow the same set of guidelines I had just completed. I advised them that i had already done so, and attached a copy of my attempt to acquire. They sat on that for another 19 days. I contacted them again to ask why F-A-G employees were not following their own posted time-frames. I was then directed to e-mail copies of my correspondence to a random e-mail address.

I waited almost two weeks with no word, so re-opened the original request and explained that it was disheartening that the company did not meet it's own rules and regulations. I received an immediate reply that 'they would allow the current memorial manager 7 days, then I should contact them AGAIN, and they would complete the transfer.

It is now 13 days since that e-mail, and a total of almost 8 weeks since I began the journey of attempting to manage my own family's memorial page, instead of a stranger, following the posted guidelines on proving lineage, and allowing posted wait times.

This is not a "new" problem; a very similar instance in 2022 resulted in an e-mail from Find-a-grave paid staff informing me that they had 'personal issues' going on in their life. While sympathetic to this, it does not change the fact that find-a-grave has low standards on meeting their own terms of agreement while taking every opportunity to duck out of upholding their own rules.

Will be lodging a complaint AGAIN, with the parent company, Ancestry, and may (distastefully), resort to allowing the general public to draw their own conclusions on the management of the subsidiaries of the well-known company.

Suggestion: don't post a "rule" and outline company standards if you, as a company, don't ensure that your paid employees are actually following said "rule".

It is absolutely sickening that none of these headstone photographing freaks have no respect for family members of the deceased person. I have already requested multiple times that the person who photographed my relative's grave take the photo down as a sign of respect. In my opinion, it is disrespectful and disgraceful to post grave photos online without the family member's permission.

If the family member isn't anywhere to be found, it is probable that the grave photo be posted online. But in my case, I am very find able and have already made it obvious I don't want my family's headstone photos posted online. My request for the memorial photo to be removed has been rejected three times. The owner of this memorial is a photo ghoul who has no respect for the family or the deceased.

I already have a photo of my relative's headstone that privately exists. it is not necessary for other people to do this.

I wouldn't even know about this site if not for the stalking and harassment I have received from it since my mother passed away.

[censored] has ZERO safety protocols on their site. Their rules about removing profiles require deceased people to be alive (only parents, siblings, and children...all of whom are dead). You can't show proof of next of kin to manage your own family's profiles. You can't even block people.

The site is wonky, and their rules are literally impossible. It is a gross violation of my safety and security that they will allow some random person to manage a profile for my family. I'm all that is left of my family. I'm the only one who matters in this case. I'm the one being stalked and harassed by members of [censored].

I have just found my Member Profile: Russell Farmer - Find A Grave, including my picture on the web.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=russell+l+farmer+colorado&t=newext&atb=v357-1&iax=images&ia=images&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fimages.findagrave.com%2Fphotos250%2Fphotos%2F2010%2F272%2FMP47362823_128587584229.jpg

I no longer have my login information as I haven' used their site in years. The contact phone # that I have, [protected] and just rings, no answer. What happened to members privacy?

Someone made a memorial for my uncle that we wished not to be posted on Find a Grave website. I have contacted Find a Grave on 3 separate occasions to remove the memorial as we dont want it on any social media platform. The memorial is still on Find a Grave and I havent even got one response from their company. If this company let's some random person to make a memorial then they should comply if a family member of a deceased loved one asked for it to be removed, then it should be removed! A ton of miss information is being put out in their social media platform because any joe blow can do a memorial, when they dont have the facts right. Find a Grave should just be shut down!

I’m sorry my complaint makes no sense, I did not know it was for businesses other than find a grave. The Murray Family Cemetery in East Bernstadt, Laurel County Kentucky, is mine.,reserved for our family. Thank you for your interest, but I like to visit the Cemetery on line from time to time. I have corrected some mistakes, and need to correct more.

Respectfully

Anna L Runions

I have been a member of find a grave since it first started. i added family memorials for genealogy purposes so that future generations would easily track ancestors. But the practice of find a grave to "award" people for creating memorials has become a disgusting practice whereas in order to get the numbers they lose all sense of humanity and compassion. I have no issue with someone adding OLD graves they found while walking the cemeteries. But these body chasers today don't even wait until after the funeral to post the memorial, I have had people steal watermarked photos i personally took and posted of my loved ones and they add them to other ancestry sites and pretend they are their own or they post them to totally different people. I have had Bios i wrote stolen and posted elsewhere with no mention of me writing those.

My nephew passed on new year's eve. It was sudden, he was in the prime of his life. My thoughts were not on the heartless soul collectors of Find A Grave when I heard the news. I returned home yesterday from out of town, having just attended his funeral. I'm an amateur genealogist and I've heard of the unsavory practices of Find A Grave members, so I checked to see if my nephew was on the site. Sure enough, he'd been poached by an obituary troll power-user who had taken upon himself to deprive me of part of my grieving process: to decide when, how and where to honor MY family. A complete stranger took that from me. The entry wasn't even completely filled out. Of course it wouldn't be - this guy is a complete stranger to our family! I've taken this memorial and those points from this idiot this time, but doing a little research showed he had done the same thing to one of my aunt's before I knew to check such things? Pathetic, despicable practice that is allowed to continue by this company.

Another member of Find a Grave is holding my grandfather's memorial page hostage. She flatly refuses to give it up.

I have been asking for four years for Wendy EBENSTEIN Norman - Find a Grave ID [protected] to transfer William Ambrose Kogomo Sky-Eagle Sr. Memorial ID [protected] to me. My name is Bill Sky-Eagle. I have been a member of Find a Grave for almost 16 years, and work constantly to upgrade other Find a Grave memorials. My Find a Grave ID is: [protected]

Thank you in advance for your help in resolving this stalemate.

Best wishes,

Bill Sky-Eagle

I got threatened with police action because the evil administrators refused to give my account back after it was removed. They stated I was 'harassing' them, despite me trying to calm the situation to get my account restored. They told me they have the right to delete my account because I put a link in my bio to another website (which is absolutely safe). And whats funny is that other people have links to different websites, but my entire account was REMOVED because I added a link to another grave-locating website: Now I'm convinced that these admins are evil and favor other people!

My estranged sister became Manager on my fathers site and added a nickname to his name on the site. It's not on the tombstone and it was a nickname given to him by coworker where he worked for 4 years from [protected]. He hated the nickname and when my father and mother divorced in 1969; he moved back to his home town in NC and was never even called anything like that again. He passed away in 1999. My sister became the "manager" on the account in 2011 and in 2022 she suddenly added the name "Vic" to his site. I asked her to take it down and she cussed me out stating she would not take it down. I contacted Find a Grave and they said that as long as it was not derogatory they would not take it down. My other sister who lives in NC and his brother do not want it there. My sister is estranged from us all for 20+ years and never spoke to my father since the 70's. How can she be allowed to rule over this site and add things not wanted by other family members? If it was on his tombstone I would not be complaining but it's not! We all want it removed. It is derogatory to not respect the dead. Respecting him would be to take it down since he did not even like the nickname.

been a member since 2016 and i dont log in often, and i just discovered that someone made a memorial for my great grandfather john flint #[protected]. i visited the cemetery he is buried at and i did not find his grave. i was disappointed because i have been looking for his interment for years but i was even more disapointed when the owner of the memorial refused to change the listed cemetery... i emailed find a grave about this and it took them 1 month to respond... they told me that if i could not prove they aren't buried there then they will help. i tried to explain the situation but they stopped replying. The person who took my great grandfathers memorial has captured over 50,000 souls and she cannot do a simple favor!