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Members that have thousands of memories but only list the minimum amount of information

April 24, 2020, to Findagrave.com
Hi all, I hate finding Find a grave members that have thousands of memories but only list the minimum amount of information,
I have found an old lady that is on oxazine 24 hours a day that has 80, 000 memorials and will not transfer their memorials to me.
there needs to be a rule that you can't just add the date of birth & the date of death & place of burial... Barbara Richardson Smith [protected]
When I find people like her I will not help them to add all the information needed. Check me out Public Name Dennis J Friedman, ID [protected]
the list below is the number of people I have checked
[protected], [protected], [protected]. No, I am not related but I am doing research for the family or my girlfriend

Members that have thousands of memories but only list the minimum amount of information

Memorial sites and customer service

I along with my mom, my aunt and a second cousin had our accounts deactivated from Find A Grave all because of two people who claimed to be relatives that weren't, Mary E. Payne aka Mary E. P Find A Grave # [protected] and Roni McFadden aka Bluejayln # [protected]. They were constantly posting things on our immediate family memorials that weren't true. Each time, one of us in the family would politely attempt to correct them on something that they had posted that was incorrect and each time, they would get very nasty and just posted more and more untrue things on purpose. All of us filed several complaints (with proof) to Find A Grave without anything ever being done. Not one thing. And now each one of us have had our accounts closed down for what Find A Grave said was harassment without any proof (because there was none or if something was submitted by one of these two, nothing was done to make sure that they were true). No one in our family that was on Find A Grave has never been anything but nice to these two. The only time that I got a little heated was in a complaint due to Mary E. Payne stealing my photographs that I posted on Find A Grave and then she filed a complaint against me to Find A Grave and accused me of of stealing Her Photo's. This Whole Find A Grave is VERY Unprofessional and one Can Not Go By Anything that is posted on the memorials because if this happened to us, then there are other memorials out there that have incorrect information on them

Virtual flowers

I have reason to believe that Find A Grave has deleted one of my virtual flowers along with its comments. I don't understand why. This hasn't happened before (as far as I know) and I would like to at least get an answer as to whether or not my assumption is valid. Plus I just would like to know what happened out of pure and sheer curiosity. The memorial in question is for a famous person. Memorial #1460

How to access old information to an old account on findagrave

I am wondering how to connect to an old Findagrave.com account?

I would to a like to add an old obituary to mt existing Findagrave account. I lost all of my login information when I became sick and ended up in a hospital. My old landlady told me that I could not come back to the place I was renting from last year (2018).
I lost all of my login information plus other stuff.
Lastly; This is not a complaint. I am in need of some assistance.
my old address was: 14045 Lynmark St, Lamirada, CA 90638

Below is a link to the memorial that I would like transferred to my current site:

old site:

https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/110507833/jim-hughes

current site:

https://www.findagrave.com/user/49891023/memorial?&limit=20&skip=0&firstname=&middlename=&lastname=&birthyear=&birthyearfilter=&deathyear=&deathyearfilter=&locationId=&location=&datefilter=&photofilter=&gpsfilter=&famous=&cenotaph=undefined&flowers=&sponsored=&noCemetery=&includeNickName=&includeMaidenName=&partialLastName=&exactName=undefined&linkedToName=undefined&fuzzyNames=undefined&mcid=undefined&type=managed&orderby=n

  • Updated by jim hughes jr · Nov 08, 2019

    On the above message the city should be La Mirada instead of Lamirada.
    2) The obituary is my dad's obituary.

    Thanks so much in advance for all of your assistance.

  • Updated by jim hughes jr · Nov 08, 2019

    This is message 3.

    As you will notice that the name Jim Hughes Jr is the same on both accounts.

  • Updated by jim hughes jr · Nov 08, 2019

    Lastly. I just sent in a suggestion for the Jim Hughes obituary. I would like to add my mom Earlean Hughes to the obituary of my dad's Jim Hughes who died in Kankakee, Kankakee County, IL, USA.

    NAMASTE.

Date of great grandfather's death is inaccurate

My Great Grandfather Thomas D Murphy died on 13 December 1925. Thomas died of Hemiplegia Arteriosclerosis due to Bronchial Pneumonia. Thomas and Delia are buried in Mt. Benedict Cemetery, Roslindale, MA. He is buried with his wife Delia, Frederick J (my Grandfather) and various other members of family in Mount Benedict Cemetery, I think this error prevents Ancestry and other data banks to provide educated hints based on the data I have. Please resolve this issue for me. I would be so grateful

Date of great grandfather's death is inaccurate

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    JaneElroy Aug 17, 2019
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    This site (complaintsboard.com) has nothing to do with Find A Grave. You need to use Find A Grave's processes to suggest changes to memorials. The memorial only contains the death year because that is what is on the marker. That is not an "error". When you search Ancestry and other data banks, they only go by the year, not the exact date.
    If you do suggest a change to the memorial (via the Find A Grave processes), you should be prepared to provide documentation for the change. Just saying it is so doesn't make it so. Genealogy without documentation is mythology...

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I typed out an email to findagrave and ads covered the submit button so I couldn't send it - makes me think findagrave is very dodgy! Anyway I wanted to inform findagrave that someone has left a very derogatory comment on a murder victim's page. The murder victim is Charmaine Marie Byerly Sabrah - the comment is from Fayez Sabrah - obviously he or she had to join findagrave to leave that comment - that comment should be removed - I don't want to join findagrave but should be able to inform you of inappropriate comments on a page. I am in no way related to the victim or her family. I just don't like seeing that happen to someone who can't defend herself. -Eileen Delaney

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    orchid Rose Oct 01, 2019
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    Find A Grave Forced To Add Photos To Memorial
    FIND A GRAVE FORCED TO ADD PHOTOS TO MEMORIAL #143829989
    "Joseph King "Joe" Odom Memorial #143829989"
    In 2015 a memorial was created that was titled 'Joseph King Odom'. This memorial had just 1 photo added...it was his grave marker.
    In 2018 Find A Grave removed the 1grave marker photo from the memorial and activated
    this text under the memorial title 'add photo' which reads "Adding photos to this memorial is not allowed." which left "Joseph King ("Joe") Odom memorial #143829989 blank of any photos.
    By mid March 2018 FIND A GRAVE WAS FORCED to add 3 photos (including the grave marker photo that Find A Grave had earlier removed) to Joseph King Odom's memorial and Find A Grave also changed the memorial title from Joseph King Odom to Joseph King 'Joe' Odom.
    By Orchid Rose

    Resolution requested : Find A Grave to Unlock / unblock all photo add function in all memorials in Find A Grave website...

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    orchid Rose Oct 02, 2019
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    Joseph King "Joe" Odom Memorial #[protected]"
    In 2015 a memorial was created that was titled 'Joseph King Odom'. This memorial had just 1 photo added...it was his grave marker.
    In 2018 Find A Grave removed the 1 grave marker photo from the memorial and activated
    this text under the memorial title 'add photo' which reads "Adding photos to this memorial is not allowed." which left "Joseph King ("Joe") Odom memorial #[protected] blank of any photos. This function is active BLOCK as of 10/1/19.y mid March 2018 FIND A GRAVE WAS FORCED to add 3 photos (including the grave marker photo that Find A Grave had earlier removed) to Joseph King Odom's memorial and Find A Grave also changed the memorial title from Joseph King Odom to Joseph King 'Joe' Odom.
    By Orchid Rose

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    orchid Rose Oct 02, 2019
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    This is the Forced Changed Memorial.

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    orchid Rose Oct 08, 2019
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    Find A Grave 2018 Forced Correction
    Henry King Odom - 37455725 (Please do not delete memorial ID number )
    In 2009 Cecelia Stewart (#47117292) created a Find A Grave Memorial (#37455725) for a person titled Henry King Odom. It ran for 9 years with the incorrect data.
    When confronted with the true facts Cecelia Stewart did not / would not willingly make the corrections to the Henry King Odom biography.
    In January 2018 Cecelia Stewart was made to remove her incorrect version of Henry King Odom biography in the recorded Henry King Odom's Find A Grave Memorial. Cecelia Stewart was at the same time made to use as the replacement of the factual true biography written by Henry King Odom's grt-granddaughter . This was 9 years after Cecelia created the incorrect data but not before Family Search.com (ChristineHB7 - 2015) along with 30 Odom Family Trees had put Cecelia Stewart's incorrect data into their ancestry tree. Fact: Tristram Odom was Henry King Odom's UNCLE. This data in this new biography profile is an accurate & factual account of the son of James W. Odom, Jr. and Rebecca Odom. ...By Nancy Craig Solt

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    orchid Rose Oct 08, 2019
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    Memorial data can make or break ancestry linage.

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Requested photos

I've only been a member for 5 days. The first thing I wanted to do was find my family members, see if there were photos and leave some flowers.

When I found family with no photos I put in a request for some. Well... Jennifer peterson, id [protected] responded by sending me a pornographic video link!! Wtf obviously this response was completely unexpected but I have to say i'm not surprised. Sooooo many deplorable, disgusting, immoral degenerates! This is exactly why I do not interact with people socially online!

Hey jennifer! A little advice. You should probably work on yourself, do some soul searching and at least try to be a decent human being before its youre grave registered on this site!!!

Requested photos

Online memorial

I have found this site to be very very poor, I had created an account and memorials for loved ones I wished remembered. After a while, behaviour from members on the site concerned and worried me, as some members were at times rude or aggressive towards me and each other for no apparent reason. I decided to remove my memorials and account which I proceeded to do and be done with the site and leave the mad hatters to it as I have no time for these ego trips.

Only to discover to my horror having been told weeks later, Find a Grave had re-instated some of my memorials and given their ownership to complete strangers who had been rude / aggressive towards me but kept my bio's AND photographs. I have contacted the site multiple times and been ignored, I think its time Google stopped endorsing them on its search engine for genealogy as it falls far below the mark on that too. I have seen some people on there with good intensions who want to remember loved ones and record them but others who seem well almost power mad? which is odd to me personally.

I would finally add, that the government in the companies native US needs to take some action; against this madness. I am horrified and hurt my memorials were not able to be permanently deleted at my request but could be re-instated after being removed, at the request of online trolls, who did not even know them. Utterly appalling so do not let this happen to you or waste your time on this site! you won't be treated with respect. I sponsored many memorials of myself and other people and do not care about not getting the money back, it really does not matter. What does, is the double standard of listening to one person who has the admin ear's and ignoring the legitimate family member / creator / often sponsor of the memorial itself. I truly wish I had never ever seen this site. It is true what other people have said, the living have feelings and should be respected. I would also say to all those who so happily endorse the site and rebuff any criticism what so ever, if your loved ones memorials were taken, or created and things added/taken away or written that were not true or downright nasty I am sure 110% you would not be happy. Genealogy or not, were humans and we have emotion, to you it may just be a grave but to other people its the last expression of love to someone or do you just think there empty meaningless lumps of stone? honestly people enough is enough.

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    JaneElroy Nov 28, 2018
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    Did you read the site's policies? Once you add anything to the site (memorials, bios, photos, etc.), you have given them a transferable license to use the material as they deem appropriate.
    Google doesn't "endorse" Find A Grave. It is a search engine so what you see is determined by the search terms you enter. Google isn't making any recommendations, just completing the search you requested, no more, no less.
    Find A Grave isn't breaking the law. Everything they did was part of their Terms of Service. They can't "make" you read the Terms, Community Guidelines or Help section - it's up to the user to read "the manual".

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    thisisauntakenusername Jan 08, 2019

    May they all get the ligma
    And have the ligma on their tomb stones in the future

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    Cindy2020 Jan 27, 2019

    I totally agree, I was a member of find a grave for years. Poor and lazy management, deleted memorials without warning, blocked accounts for any complaint without even investigating. Also I was so much money sponsoring memorials giving that corrupt sight money.

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memorials

There is a person named SILE, going through all the memorials on find a grave. THE person seems to think, that, in uploading all the various cemeteries online to find a grave..thats all that has to be done. HOWEVER, in doing that, you can submit the dead person's name, and it will still come up no one exists buried there UNTIL the cemetery updates their website, files, pages, records including the dead person's name. THE Obits I have had in hand, stating where folks are buried..yet, no matter what or when I reinvestigate, that persons name still comes up as not buried at such and such cemetery. UNTIL the cemetery records/files etc are updated, completely, properly..these folks will not exist..even though the cemetery is now online. I thought, creating a memorial, with the person's obits listed on it..would be helpful for folks to at least locate their loved ones, and take it from there. BUT, this person SILE on find a grave, seems to be harassing me today..on every stinking memorial I have created to the point..I deleted them all but 3..and this person SILE is still harassing me. Suggest find a grave put a muzzle on the person and hog tie their fingers.

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    JaneElroy Nov 28, 2018
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    I don't understand your comment whatsoever. Find A Grave memorials have nothing to do with the websites owned by cemeteries.

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    Piedpyper Feb 10, 2019

    If you can't find that a certain person has a memorial in a cemetery and an obituary in your possession shows they're buried there then you simply make a memorial and add them to the cemetery. Probably no one else is going to do it. I don't understand what the problem is.

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teresa s hony obituary

You have obituary and family completely wrong. I don't appreciate it. You all should not be allowed to...

misrepresentation

Find A Grave technically supposed to be a site where people can remember their departed without a lot of...

find a grave ads

On August 15, 2017, I previewed the "new" Find a Grave and I am very dismayed. A look at my father's memorial...

grave search

Horrible site - mostly graveyard vampyres (bored to death housewives with nothing better to do than to see how many graveyard memorials they can make if they know the deceased or not.) Many times these individuals use inaccurate date & swipe copyrighted family photos from other sites. Usually when families complain it falls on deaf ears. Find A Grave is an invasion of privacy. Families have the right to mourn their departed without any grief from the find a grave team.

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    JaneElroy Nov 28, 2018
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    The copyright holder of an infringed photo can file a DMCA take-down notice with Find A Grave and they will remove the photo.
    Would you be so kind as to list the law that gives families "the right to mourn their departed without any grief from the find a grave team"? Rolling on the floor... 'cause there ain't no such law. The dead have no privacy.

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the service

Find A Grave for the most part is assorted photos of graves with bios made by bored housewives with usually no tie to the family. Its sort of a game - who can make the most memorials. Most of the info is inaccurate. In my particular case they took my grandparents names mixed them up with some1 else who was a distant cousin and then created the memorial. To make matters worse ancestry.com now owns find a grave. So these find a grave trolls got into family pages, swiped family photos and added them to their page. Now these trolls make make the claim family tree material is public record and they have a right to access it. That may be true. But private family photos are not public domain,

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    JaneElroy Nov 28, 2018
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    Hmm, guess you haven't read the "terms" of either Ancestry or Find A Grave recently. Anything you find on any Ancestry-owned website can be copied and republished on any other Ancestry-owned website. If you put "private family photos" on your public tree on Ancestry, they are no longer "private". Other members MAY use those photos, according to Ancestry's policies. When you use any site, you should really, really read all of their terms, policies, etc. so you know what you are agreeing to / allowed to do. I know, some people find that far too tedious and boring.

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membership

I discovered Find A Grave a short while ago when doing research on relative, Lt. Francis G. Turton who was a...

indirect suicide encouragement. encourages suicidal people (diff level of suicidal) commit suicide and died. kills people indirectly.

When you go more on findagrave even you would also wish to suicide. Findagrave are full of dead people and family and freind love/care/support message

those who dont have strong faith, dont go findagrave.
Many people originally not suicide, but when they visit findagrave or funeral sites,
they all suicide and died. Yes findagrave do encourage suicide.

If someone is suicidal, do not visit findagrave.

I got some friends who dont have suicidal thoughts. When they see their family member/friend on findagrave. They all go suicide.

This site steals funeral photos without permissions. Members all compete for number of burial records made by stealing ppl headstones and claim "dead people no longer have any privacy nor rights"
this is very cruel and rude to the family of the dead.

Even if on facebook u must also have to ask permission before you share photo from girls. Not just share or steal. Right?

and some people online in facebook only share, say "facebook is public. When you put photo, i can just share. Facebook not care this kind of thing."

it's people property, people photo, not your photo, and this same issue happen on findagrave

findagrave should delete unauthorized funeral photos pages. Members can even steal people headstone photo by take photo on camera and put even when the deceased really 100% no relation with the creator.

  • Updated by ОЛИВЬЕ · Jan 11, 2017

    my friend grave burial records keeps being deleted again and again

    I write my friend grave on findagrave.com but the staff is heartless and coldblood. they not only suspend account they even keeps delete the friend burial record

    this is very disrespectful to the dead

  • Updated by ОЛИВЬЕ · Jan 11, 2017

    it made some people (normal and no suicidal thoughts) suddenly feels down emotionally and all go suicide (commit suicide) in different suicide methods and died very soon.

    even when it's the user own responsibility to carry when they suicide, findagrave made a friend of mine who had nothing and is positive / happy in 2012 when her mother died. suddenly [censored]one point 5 year later (2013 June) and died in 2013 July 23

    she was an active findagrave member herself, she looked her mom's grave on findgrave (findagrave) since her mom died on 7 feb 2012 and her dad died on 29-7-2011, both parents of her have burial records on findagrave.

    and she [censored] in USA grand terrace in 2013 and died.

    because of findagrave.

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    pobarjenkins Jan 11, 2017
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    First and foremost, I would like to apologize for the lost of your friend. You have given no firm evidence that Findagrave.com was the cause of your friend's suicide or that it has made others be driven to suicide. Correlation does not equal causation. It is extremely likely that there were other issues with your friend that contributed to, if not caused, her decision to end her life. Many of the people who commit suicide do not share the extent of their issues.

    Just to add for anyone viewing this, if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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    Genealogy Girl (GenealogyGirl) Oct 06, 2017
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    This is the most idiotic thing that I have ever seen. I am a member of Findagrave. Findagrave does not make anyone suicidal, people who are suicidal area already suicidal. Findagrave's purpose is final disposition. You may not agree with it, but that is what the site is for. Many people love Findagrave, this is why you find so many happy volunteers. As far as photograph copyright goes, the only person who can claim copyright on a photograph is the person who actually took the photo.

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    Eliz Olmstead May 06, 2018
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    The biggest crock to be posted yet about FindAGrave.

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    AmitChak Oct 16, 2018

    I know many people who were addicted to that website who did commit suicide. If someone suffers some from of mental illness, especially suicidal tendencies, they should NOT spend too much time on that website...

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    JaneElroy Nov 28, 2018
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    @AmitChak Prove it - post their suicide notes where they specifically stated "I am committing suicide because of Find A Grave."

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    Piedpyper Feb 10, 2019

    The average complaint on this site about Findagrave seems to be written by people who dropped out of grade school. Please let me find just one that makes sense. This person's posting activity is good for a laugh. 3 dozen in 1 day all about Findagrave.

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unethical website

I see that someone else had this situation regarding someone photographing and posting her six-year old...

this site is to be avoided at all costs

This site is to be avoided at all costs! There is a lot going on at the findagrave website that the unassuming public doesn't know about. This banning of members for no reason and deleting their memorials without cause will end up costing that website big and the members that are involved in this behavior will be held accountable.

I had a very negative experience with ###. I had been a member for over 9 years. The memorials I entered were mostly family members. One day out of the blue a member named BB started sending me emails about duplicate memorials. Her profile had no photo or bio and stated she had only been a member for 3 years. I checked into the memorials that she claimed were dupes and found that they were NOT dupes so I wrote back and let her know that the information she had must be incorrect. She continued sending emails up to 3 emails every five minutes. Since she was incorrect, I told her to stop harassing me. She did not respond and continued sending the emails.

A couple of days later I was trying to enter a memorial and my account was cancelled. I checked for my memorials and they were all deleted! All my photos and information was gone. I couldn't believe it, and I thought it must be an error. I contacted the admin to try and figure out what was going on. I asked them why I could not log in to my account. I didn't get a response. So I wrote again and asked them why my memorials were deleted. No response. I wrote a third time, asking when my account was going to be restored. No response. That was 8 months ago and I have never gotten a response. I checked the BB members account, and suddenly she's been a member for 9 years. After another couple of months, I checked it again and now it's up to 11 years. She IS the admin. For whatever reason they deleted my account and all my memorials then BB and some other members, probably admin as well, began stealing the information and the photos and posting them as their own. I lost years worth of work, including travel time all over the country and countless hours of research.

After my experience, I began researching the company to see what others were saying and I was completely stunned to find that there are literally hundreds of complaints about these people. Because of their underhanded tactics they have become a joke in the genealogy world. One professor who teaches genealogy courses makes a point of telling his students NOT to trust the information on that site because it is filled with errors and most of it has either been stolen or is in violation of copyright laws. I have also read that ancestry.com is having to repair the damage that ### has done by deleting memorials because they have caused broken links. This is a huge issue for ancestry and makes them look bad, which they do NOT take lightly. They are in the process of disassociating themselves from ### due to their tactics.

Unfortunately, some of the F.A.G. members are not only out of line, but their comments can only lead one to believe that they are inherently evil beings. In reference to deceased family members they post venomous comments that are not only inexcusable but downright mean, nasty and vile.

There's one member that wears a red bowl on her head with a white whirlybird thing on it. Her tagline reads "Go play in the microwave - you pest". I'm completely serious. I realize it's hard to believe that an adult would do something like this but the worst part about it, aside from it being completely inappropriate and cruel, is that she's one of the administrators.

The forums are filled with horrible comments, which are aimed towards insulting and offending members, former members, new members, and people that don't agree with the "core group". They refer to the site as "Jim's playground". They consider the "Frequently Asked Questions" section to be sacred text. Time and time again you'll see them post such caring comments as "go cry somewhere else", people need to learn to "play by the rules", and banished members are "sniveling children".

Keep in mind this is a site that has memorials on it. These memorials represent many deceased friends and family members from all parts of the globe. Most people would assume that the site is supposed to be used to honor the dead and/or as a reference tool for genealogy. However, upon further examination, and after having experienced firsthand the underhanded tactics, obnoxious and inappropriate terminology and language used there, it is painfully obvious that this is just a hideout for a group of overgrown bullies haunting and slashing their way through the pages of this online graveyard.

There is nothing upstanding, caring, considerate, or honorable about the administrators that run this site or their minions that freely admit to trolling page after page looking for errors and problems to "report back" to their leader. There is nothing kind or loving about the way they handle questions, complaints, or opinions. There is nothing dignified at all about these people who control a website that houses memorials of people's loved ones. It's difficult to believe that any human being could be that wicked and ruthless but it's all right there in plain English for the whole world to see. Shame on those people - shame!

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    MnMan Sep 18, 2012

    I am sorry you had to learn about the lurking evil the hard way. Had I known that kind of evil was lurking in the shadows, I would have never participated on on the site. Billion Graves is a great alternative. Thank you for speaking out and warning others. Everything you said is important for others to know.

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    TruthSeeker69 May 29, 2017
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    As a member of Find A Grave since the web was in its infancy, I can tell you with certainty that not all of us are "inherently evil beings."

    As a genealogist, I have standards and there are certain things that I will not do (I will not take pictures of tombstones of children who have died within the past 50 years and I will not take pictures of tombstones of adults who have died within 10 years. Even so, if someone asks me to delete a memorial, no matter how old it is, it's deleted. No questions asked). It doesn't say much for you, or anyone else, to make such sweeping statements about people.

    Bottom line: I'm interested in accuracy, not becoming a "Top Contributor" to the website (if I wanted that, I would have had it about a decade before many people even heard or read about the site).

    I'm so old I remember when the website had zero to do with genealogy. Its original intention/focus was featuring famous memorials - and people were unable to leave comments on the pages.

    When the site was opened up to non-famous memorials, that's when the proverbial sh** hit the fan. And with the advent and popularity of garbage TV shows such as "Who Do You Think You Are?", this encouraged people who fancied themselves "genealogists" to get involved with the website, because all one has to do is create an account and, boom, your "work" is posted right away, accuracy be damned.

    It's that caliber of person who has made the website into a joke - posting nothing more than names and years of birth and death. And it's that same type of bored individual who creates the drama you spoke about because that's what happens when people choose to live in the middle of nowhere. There's nothing else going on, so fire up a machine and spout goofy sh**. Everyone shouldn't be painted with the same brush for the childish few.

    As for Billion Graves: That website is a joke, along with Interment.net. I like FindAGrave's option to stick information with the memorial because all I ever wanted to do was help people who were looking for family members to find the information I post in as many memorials as I can.

    The only information I post is from the public record - yes, tombstones are public along with newspaper death notices and obituaries. And plenty of people have contacted me over the years thankful for the information I posted as it helped them with their research. That is the ONLY reason why I am on that website.

    Given the amount of time I have been on the site, I have gotten a few wisea**es along the way, but I put them in their places (and, no, I am not an administrator). I have even had one contributor who actually stalked me in a few cemeteries and started going through my interments to see what cemeteries I was posting a lot in. She would go to these cemeteries every single day and take her crooked, blurry photos (that she claimed copyright to!) just so she could edge me out. She even created another account on the site (no picture nor bio) thinking no one would realize they were the same person.

    Again, this is what happens when you live in the middle of nowhere, your computer is your only form of entertainment, and you have nothing else to do but live in cemeteries.

    So I “get it” that there are plenty of people with "issues" on Find A Grave.

    On the other hand, I have corresponded with some of the nicest, most helpful people through the site. They're trying to do what I'm there for: We're just trying to document cemeteries (especially older burials) as there are people who live far away from these cemeteries and who cannot travel or go to a cemetery for one reason or the other.

    And too many cemeteries are being neglected in this day and age, so perhaps it's a good thing people like myself take pictures and document the older stones before the information on them disappears ... or the stone sinks into the ground.

    In the grand scheme of things, though: Find A Grave was never to be used for genealogy. It morphed into that. Next time, do a little homework before you brand everyone with the same iron while accusing others of doing the same. There is a term for that behavior.

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abused and bullied by a administrator and her friends

Used and abused, added thousands of photos and memorials sponsored 10 memorials when my account was suspended (by a biased administrator)all my hard work remained. Jim Tipton profits from those of use that visit and photograph cemeteries. His administrators play favorites and will favor their friends over other members. My contributions put thousands of dollars in Jim Tipton's pocket and all I got was harrassed, abused and bullied by a administrator and her friends. DO NOT JOIN FIND A GRAVE AND NEVER CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING YOU WILL REGRET IT IF NOT NOW EVENTUALLY!

  • ОЛИВЬЕ Jan 11, 2017
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    I feel sad of you that you had even paid money to the site.

    I am free member they also bully us. you are paid, they should not be rude to anyone who paid them. their site.

    I feel sorry for you even having money paid.

    they keep on suspend people now.

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    Marthann Kohl-Fuhs Jan 22, 2017
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    Why is it that certain members of Find A Grave seem to think they are the cops and can flood your email with orders to fix this or that memorial? It is cyber stalking and cyber bullying and the administrators don't care.

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theft

I have had similar experiences. This site is a dictatorship and it hides behind the guise of helping other...

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