Old People review: Old People Who Complain 6

*sigh* Can't. I know I was complaining but the fact of the matter is an old people's home would probably kill her. The fact of the matter is that she is disappointed in life and her children. She grew up believing kids are there to take care of you. That she would end up living with one of her son's families. Also that she should be revered simply because she is the eldest.

She is old and alone and doesn't realize being mean is what is making everyone want to run from her. I can understand it but I really don't have a clue how to fix it. She is also complaining because she learned it made people run to her side but now it is a case of the boy who cried wolf. She doesn't know any other way to get people to run to her.

Hell if she would concede and at least wear her hearing aid life would be easier because then at least she might hear us telling her to back off a little. *shrug*

Thanks for your input. The irony is we will all die before she does. She is a tough old bird. Lived a fascinating life but is too self-absorbed to see just maybe others might be interesting too *shrug* Does it really matter?

We are born to die anyway I suppose. It is just a case of how we go through the interim. Anyway, I best get on with an assignment.

I hate rude obnoxious people in general. Sorry, that you have to deal with horrible people like that.

My Gran is 91, my mum is 65 and I am 38. My Gran spent this morning complaining that her breakfast of cereal was only slushy water, I gave her bread and pate, she complained that bread is to be eaten with a full meal but refuses to eat a full meal. She complains she cannot eat yet has put on 4 kg since coming to stay with us. She complains that no-one wants to come live with her and serve her by doing the cooking and cleaning (she thinks room and board is sufficient payment and that they person should not have a regular job but must pay for all the bills and food). She complained that my mother has been going to church too often, that the place is cold (she is running the heater 27/4 and it is stifling hot and since it is gas she hogs it so the rest of the floor gets cold and gets ticked when we try and heat the kitchen a little). She complains nothing that cooked is good enough. She complains she does not need to have a bath because she has not had sex. She complains incessantly. She complains about her joints and how when one is old that they should just die and why won't god just take her (my cousin told her god does not want her and the devil is afraid of her).

She states my mother is too young to complain yet my mother works night shift and cannot retire because my mother was left with debt upon my fathers death and has arthritis in her hands and joints. No-one can be sick but her yet the doctors repeatedly tell her she is fitter than my mother who is working like a dog to try and appease her. She complains that my mother should not be sleeping during the day (hello you do a 12 hour shift till 7am for four days without sleep!).

She complains about me because I am trying to get another degree to get a flippin full time job and that I should be home taking care of my mother instead of working the four part-time jobs I have and studying. She complains when I go see my sister. She complains when I go to one of my four jobs because I am not waiting on her hand and foot. She complains that her children (she has seven) do not come visit but that my mother is an ogre for taking her in and trying to make her eat and shower.

She repeatedly tells the depressing story of being a prisoner of war because they thought she was a spy and how her mother was killed by her daughter-in-laws. Oh yeah, she complains about her own daughter-in-laws and how they won't let her stay with them ... not surprisingly her desire to control everyone has ticked them off completely. Top it off "what has she come to that her sons don't take care of her" hey, what are daughters...chicken liver?

I have back problems, my nerves are shot given I have spent my life since a very young child defending my family from an violent alcoholic and in recent times been dealing with the manipulative behaviour of one my brothers. I want nothing more than to escape but hey, duty calls.

Old fart, tell me, where in all the above does my Gran have a right to complain when she is physically more healthy than my mother, she gets her meals cooked, her clothes washed, she has those that care enough for her try and get her to bathe regardless of whether she had sex and want nothing more than the best for her? Where?

And the crappy part is that now I am complaining and this morning I told her enough. If she wants to eat then force herself to eat, if not then I am quite happy to chuck out the food. I don't care.

Oh yeah Old Fart, I would be thrilled to go pee every two hours instead my kidneys which are prone to infection result in my peeing more than once an hour on some days and for what because allergies inflame my system.

We do all get old, we do all become more and more infirm but I think when people are trying their best for you, a little kindness, just a simple thank you when someone tries to help you would be nice no matter how old you are. Just because we get old and infirm it does not mean that we should leave our manners behind. Admittedly with Gran manners was never something she had. When I was younger I used to admire her ability to speak her mind but now all I see is a woman who is cruel to those that are trying so hard to help her. So self-absorbed that she cannot see that other people are suffering too. *sigh*

Having said that, there are old people I know who are great and even though they are in pain accept it is a part of life and just enjoy having that extra day to talk to people about the everyday and experience this incredibly wonderfully changing world about us. That is what I admire now. People who still see each day as a gift no matter how old they are. I seriously hope I become like that when I am 91 and not like my Gran who does not appreciate my mum or anyone and what they are doing for her.

Hey, Old Fart, just because you’re having a lousy day, doesn’t mean you get to take it out on someone else. Why don’t you try being nicer to people instead of verbally abusing them. That’s what’s wrong with older people. They think
once they reach a certain age, they can do whatever they want. Think again, no you can’t! If you have an ailment or get your panties entangled in your crack we don't want to hear about it. Respect people younger than you like you want to be respected. Misery doesn't love company!

I'm tired of their complaining too. And I'm tired of being treated poorly by them when they themselves are doing the retail job. Old women especially tick me off with their judgemental, bossy, poor me attitudes and their childlike, narcissitic, spoiled silly behaviors.

I hope you never get old! Getting old means being tired because you couldn't sleep at night on account of your arthritis, having to pee every two hours, the constant pain in your joints means your knees and hips need replacment surgery, your stomach can't take any food without it becoming upset, people either ignore you, they cut in front of you, or they give you dirty looks. Some days the pain is so bad you wish the world would just go away. Old people ARE PEOPLE! Older people are tired of being treated like a piece of dirt that should be swept away, or ignored as if they were invisible. We do know a few things. Heaven help us if we don't! We've been around long enough. Old people need to know that someone still cares. We can't help it if our hair turns gray, and we have wrinkled bodies, and we walk slowly with a stooped posture. Time did this to us. It will do the same to you. If you could just climb into the body of an older person for an hour you would see why old people get cranky from time to time. Try putting on a smile when you're hurting. It's not easy. Think of the pain a lot of women go through every month. A lot of old people have this intensity of pain 24 hours a day 7 days a week. So the next time you confront a crabby, and perhaps what you would consider rude older person think about what they're putting up with. So you see old people aren't nasty for no reason. You wouldn't want to be them with all their problems. So maybe you'll be a bit nicer, and perhaps even give them a smile. That might actually make their day. Because when you get older I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want to be treated like you treated the older lady in your post. Think about it.