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I took my daughter to a Gynocoist as she has abnormal menentrational periods. I would like to know my rights on what our Doctor & my 13 year old daughter spoke about - I was asked to leave the office when my daughter was asked about any sexual relationship. When I called the to ask what my daughter said, the Doctor, I was told it was private. My daughter is only 13, how can that possibly private? I know something has happened & I have I am sure I right to know what, is that not a parent's right for a underage child to be informed if there has been any sexual activity?
If anything, to educate them & protect them?
Please advise
Thanking You
Mrs Holmes
Company Business Name: Personal
Country of complaint: South Africa
The complaint has been investigated and resolved to the customer’s satisfaction.
Dear Mom,
I sincerely understand your concern. It is your right to know if your 13 year old is sexually active. But she is the one who should share that with you. I am a mom, I am also a doctor who see many adolescence girls in my practice. It is not at all uncommon for a doctor to ask the parent to leave the room. We do so for one reason only. So that your child will tell us the truth. When you are sitting in the room with her, she will tell us exactly what she knows you want to here. If she is sexually active, there are very important precautions that we as physicians want to discuss with her. if she is active she will need to begin pap smear testing, birth control counseling and std/hiv prevention and education. And mom, if we reveal what she discuss with us, she will never trust a health provider again. I assure, if your child reports anything to the doctor that puts her life in danger or anything outside of the usual teenager promiscuous behaviour her doctor will break the professional doctor- patient code and inform you. But even this is done at the very last resort. I always encourage my young patients to discuss anything more serious with the parent. I often have a family meeting and act as the buffer with the child and the parent. Your child need to feel that she can come to you for any reason. But sometimes little girls are embarrased to let their mommies know that they are active. I know I did the same thing when I was younger. And I was 18 years old. What you may want to do is to talk to your daughter about sex even if you are not certain that she is active. Tell her where to go or whom to talk with if she ever feels that she cannot talk with you. Your child's doctor has done the right thing for your child and for you. Good luck.
SSamuel is right. It is unfortunate, but this is the reality of it all.
I have a 17 year old daughter who has rejected the moral teachings she was given since birth, and is now very active sexually, of course against our wishes, but it is heppening.
so, instead of being ignorant about it, we have expressed our displeasure and educated her about responsibility.
I am appalled at her behaviour, as well as the same behaviour shared by her friends of the same age, but we can only do so much, and hope that with education, nothing occurs that will negatively effect her future life.
In case you are wondering what kind of parents we are? I was heartbroken to hear of her behavours, my husband is a Pastor, and frankly discussed having her sent off to a girl's school, but what guarentee would that be? In anger and frustration he even discussed honor killing as the muslims do. (not to worry)
But, we took a deep breath, and have been dealing with her rebelious behaviours, mainly by limiting much of her socializing etc.