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Find a grave.com photographed my 6 year old daughter's headstone and put it online. I was aghast when it popped up on my monitor. I have contacted the prosecutor and state police. The prosecutor says that I can file a civil complaint about this infringement against the guy who took and posted the picture. This person will not answer my emails and the police have located him. I feel this infringes on my privacy, copyright laws and personal property of mine being placed on the internet for advertising purposes. I'll write again to let everyone know the outcome of this.
@ july1962: Move on already. I Googled your name and it's plain to see you ticked a website admin off and so what, ya got booted off A FREE SITE! Did you pay for sponsoring a memorial on Find A Grave? NO YOU DID NOT. I checked your cached December page (which can still be viewed). You spent NO $$$ on Find A Grave. Sure you volunteered 22 pictures. Big deal. Some members have hundreds and some thousands of volunteered photos taken. What is wrong with you? This isn't a situation for the BBB. You have only been on Find A Grave for five months and you begin bullying members who have been on for years, because they post a memorial page? You have some serious anger issues. It's just a website. Get a life! Put your time to better use and take care of your sister.
meanwhile those gravers as you call them, trespass on private owned cemeteries and family plots to take photos without permission.. I posted a friends passing yesterday and a graver already has her "memorial" posted on findagrave with my exact words.. and of course wrong info...
I call what they are doing the Newbie Syndrome. Many people like to be negative and they are bored.
GraverAlways, some people are just cheap and then complain about the free too.
All the cemeteries around here are public. I'm not sure I have ever seen "private cemeteries".
Cemeteries come in handy when u have to take a leak while there u can also take a photos .
BEWARE of findagrave! They have a "C" rating with the Better Business Bureau and I have just filed my own complaint against them and wanted to share it with you here. They can delete all your memorials at their own whim!
Findagrave is a website that catalogs obituaries and burial places for genealogists. One can create "memorials" for their loved ones and others and list their burial locations for future generations. Many people also use it as a hobby and put in endless hours of cataloging obituaries and burial locations of strangers so that other people might be able to find their loved ones. In the last few months I have logged a hundred or more hours creating memorials and had over 300. I cataloged my family, people I've worked with in show business and alumni from my high school. I also linked my high school alumni memorials to a website I run for my school. Yesterday an issue arose from a memorial I created for a famous actor that passed away. Their rules state that you are always to do a search before creating a memorial. If one already exists, you're to work with the creator of that memorial on any changes or additions. Another person came along and knowingly created a NEW memorial for the actor. I made it known to her and she defiantly would not take it down. So I contacted the administrators for help. They actually sided with her, even though she admitted to breaking the rules, and gave her credit for the memorial. After a couple of heated emails with administrator Robert Edwards (who goes by the screen name "bobnoxious") He sent me an email stating that he was banning me from the site. So I went in to my account and sure enough had no access. I looked up my mother's memorial and it was gone! Further research showed that ALL of my memorials were gone...they had all been deleted! All that work I spent entering these memorials was for nothing. And they weren't just punishing me, they were punishing all the people that would have used those memorials in the future. It also rendered all the links on my alumni website useless. I have since written to the owner of the website Jim Tipton a few times, with no response. Since then I've been doing online research and have found that I am not the only one that they have done this too. Wikipedia lists conflicts with this company stating: "allegedly arbitrary actions by administrators particularly with regard to "memorials" and "privacy" concerns of families and relations regarding recent deaths." The website pissedcustomer.com has quite a few detailed descriptions of problems not dissimilar to mine at: http://find-a-grave.pissedconsumer.com/. Another detailed description here: http://deathreferencedesk.org/2010/03/15/crowd-sourcing-genealogy-at-find-a-grave/. Look, if I broke rules, fine. But let me know and allow me to correct my ways; but don't just ban me and delete all my work! But I DID NOT break the rules. In fact it was because I showed them that I hadn't broken them and that they rewarded another member FOR breaking the rules, that they arbitrarily banned me and deleted all my work. They should not be allowed to do this to people. We are talking about special, precious and often emotional memories of our loved ones. This should NOT be taken lightly. You don't delete people's work that helps anyone who visits the site, simply because you have a beef with that person. You don't offer a service to catalog information, get bent out of shape and then resend the offer. If they can arbitrarily delete anyone's work at their whim, what's the point of anyone working on making their site better and more complete? Sure, it is a free site, but they take in money from website advertising that bombards you while you work, and charge $5 if you want special privileges on a memorial. Even if you pay the $5, the possibility of that memorial disappearing forever is very, very possible.
It is beyond disgusting to have advertisements for tampons and beer on the gravesite memorial page of deceased people with a "pay five bucks if you want these ads to go away". It is also beyond disgusting that "gravers" can hoard mass memorial records as long as they are two generations removed from originating family members, even if they have absolutely no relation to the family at all. ### condones and supports and implements moral and ethical abuses of our deceased that would make anyone with any kind of conscience want to puke. In doing so they attract dirtbags who are the primary people they call gravers adding these records and then hoarding them or trading them like baseball cards for ratings. The only recourse an actual human being can take is to request if not beg for a record transfer and then pay five dollars per memorial to get rid of the humiliating advertisements so their loved ones are not being disrespected in such a deplorable manner. I shutter not only for what I see happening at ### but for how this opens the door for even worse violations to come with other such companies in the future. Our society has really stooped to a whole new level of disgrace. Very sad to see.
Since then I've been doing online research and have found that I am not the only one that they have done this too. Wikipedia lists conflicts with this company stating: "allegedly arb itrary actions by administrators particularly with regard to "memorials" and "privacy" concerns of families and relations regarding recent deaths."
I just visited Wikipedia.org Can find no such conflicts listed.
This statement does not exist
"allegedly arb itrary actions by administrators particularly with regard to "memorials" and "privacy" concerns of families and relations regarding recent deaths."
HOW MANY OTHER LIES ARE YOU MAKING UP AND SPREADING?
Manure for the garden perhaps?
What I find sad here is that [censored] takes seriously our complaints and I have had experiences where people did hoard memorials and would not transfer anyone to any requests for a transfer. I know a family member was transferred to me by [censored] when I asked for it and sent them emails showing I had requested it and was totally ignored. Come on! Be fair here. You complain about $5.00 when the website is totally free? You are obviously ignorant of the way things are done on there and if you don't like it, then don't use it. I hate it when someone wants everyone to be disgruntled just because you are disgruntled.
i love the site but can understand why you would be upset about strangers photographing your child's headstone and placing it online but i'm not understanding what you mean about advertising. it's a website where people can go to and pay respects to deceased loved ones. i feel that it should be up to the family of the deceased to upload photos but i think you'll have a hard time with your complaint. Find-a-grave aren't the one's that takes the photos. ordinary people like you and me volunteer to take the photos.
you forgot to add that those ordinary ppl who are out there taking photos, some on privately owned cemeteries have not bothered to ask permission of the living..
In my state all cemeteries are public domain.
That is something that most people do not understand. Graves are in the public domain. Of course someone will always try to claim ownership of something but I do not think anyone can be sued for taking a photo of a headstone and posting it on [censored]. They can ask to have the photo removed and out of respect to the person complaining, the [censored] member should remove it. [censored] even states that is what should be done.