I too have been horribly violated by CPS.
Before our car accident, I trusted government institutions like them...NEVER again!!!
Right after our 4th child was born, (unplanned, 1 year after 3rd, ) we had NO help from family or friends even though they had offered before the birth to help. My husband and I were running ourselves into the ground trying to manage home, kids, work, and our relationship on very little sleep thanks to a newborn. 6 weeks after the birth, my husband accidentally backed over our 9 yr. old and our 20 mo. old. By the grace of God, neither child was killed though the 20 mo. old suffered broken arm and broken hip. My husband was in a hurry to get to a meeting, and the 9 yr. old (who is usually VERY responsible) was watching the other kids while I nursed the baby. I had NO idea they were in the front yard at the time, neither did my husband. VERY RARE moment of non-supervision. In fact, the 9 yr. old saved my 20 mo. old..he saw her heading for the moving car and tried to get her out of the way. That's how he got hit. I heard the screams. I thought they had been mortally injured..was extremely traumatic moment for me. Police were very kind and understanding, EMS was wonderful, hospital was wonderful.
But according to the "rules" in accidents like this, CPS was called in to do an investigation. We were very cooperative with them, even though the case worker was extremely rude and degrading. He kept throwing around the words "charged with neglect" and "removing the children" even though he hadn't even investigated us yet! (this was only 2 hrs. after the accident.) He made us sign a "saftey plan" form under threat of removal of the kids..little did I know what that "plan" really meant. For the next 3 months, CPS kept "checking" on us, tried to make us take parenting courses, (even though there was NOTHING except the accident to indicate any kind of abuse or neglect. My husband was tested for drugs and alcohol and of course came out clean. He was TIRED that day, but not under the influence of anything else.) and wouldn't even let the checkups come at convenient times for us..we had to work with "their" schedule, making life even more difficult esp. with an injured toddler to care for and a new baby. The case worker held a PRIVATE meeting with my kids (I thought that had to be taped or supervised??) to determine if they had been sexually molested. (What did this have to do with the accident??) I asked the kids about it later, they turned red and said they didn't want to talk about it. WHAT sort of images did that man fill my innocent kids' heads with?? Finally, after taking their sweet time, the case was dropped and so were all charges.
Primarily, I am very upset that they treated us as guilty before proven innocent. NOT very American. More Nazi..if you ask me. It was especially disgusting that they would do this to a stressed out family after such a traumatic experience. I don't mind that they investigated us, I can understand that, but have some tact and decency for G-d's sakes.
Yes, I complained to the social worker's boss and to the agency. No apologies..nothing.