Flash Player is an Active X control, it should not be taking 5 minutes to load, except maybe the first time it is required. It is not harassing, its just large. The complaint should be directed toward the newspapers in question, and it should be requested to make the newspapers available in non-Flash format. I do not know about Indian newspapers, but most of the major US newspapers are providing CSS feeds. If you are limited to dial-up speed, I recommend researching CSS, which is usually just text/HTML and probably a better way for you to get the news items you want.
For Dena Webster, The Secret is a book/movie about the ability to manifest your intentions. There are a variety of factors which may cause a browser to freeze, it could be quality of the video encoding, insufficient memory, a bad/incomplete plugin-install, a less-than-stable internet connection, perhaps even firewall or other security software being over-protective, or an undetected virus or other malware. Blaming the Secret or Flash Player would be premature without a proper diagnosing of the real problem. Given the frustration and your reaction to it, I can see why your colleague may have recommended The Secret, What The bleep Do I know, might be more appropriate.
For Iris N. Jordan, Flash Video can be jerky when connection is less stable. If you are behind a router that is sharing an internet connection then the more people doing stuff on the network the more likely the video will be jerky. Also, if you have a lot of programs open, the more processing the computer is not doing for streaming your video. Also, the video itself may not have been streamed or encoded well, and that can cause issues.
For Everybody: Brower Plug-ins that work with every flavor of windows and every browser and every combination of software you install on your computer is very complicated, if you have a problem look for forums and technical support. If you have a problem, somebody else has also, and there are a lot of people out there willing to help.